Sept. 1, 2026
How To Introduce Yourself In 30 Seconds So People Remember You
S2E11 - Welcome to Be Life Changers – https://linktr.ee/kathycoatesevents
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Kathy Coates put herself on the spot with a jar of questions she'd never seen — and admitted the way she'd been introducing herself sounded more like a resume than a person. In 30 to 60 seconds each, she works through who she is, who she helps, and what she wants people to remember. Try the same questions at home and see whether your own introduction would make someone want to know you more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I realized a lot of times the way I introduced myself was too much like a resume.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I say, I'm Kathy Coates.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help small businesses like yourself get seen, known, and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm almost scared to grab it out of this jar.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like starting to think, was this such a good idea?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, hello and welcome back to Be Life Changers, where we share real people, real purpose and real change on your host, Kathy Coates, and I believe every person has a story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And when we're willing to share those stories, we can encourage someone, open doors, and even change lives.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And today, we're going to be talking about something that we all can improve on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Stop introducing yourself like a resume.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if it's easy for you when you go to events or when you go to work, or maybe a place that you've never been for the first time, is it really hard for you to introduce yourself?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you find yourself feeling like you have to fit everything in within that first 30 seconds?
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[SPEAKER_01]: to 60 seconds, then this is the episode for you because we're gonna be talking about how to introduce ourselves and not sound like we're telling a resume and having to feel like we have to put it all in at one time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If someone handed you a microphone right now and you had 60 seconds to introduce yourself, what would you say?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And when you finished, would people actually remember you or would they introduction sound like everyone else's?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Today, I'm putting myself in a hot spot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have this jar right here, filled with questions I haven't prepared at all for.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some of my friends give me these questions.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And each one of these are designed to help me think about who we are, what makes our stories matter, and how we want people to remember us.
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[SPEAKER_01]: because sometimes the hardest person to introduce is ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Most of us have learned about introducing ourselves by saying our name, our title, our business, who we serve, what we have to offer in all of those types of things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But really, that is not how we should start an introduction out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So today, I'm going to pull out a few questions for the basket and get myself 30 to 60 seconds to answer each one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some will be fun and some will get personal and a few might be just a little bit uncomfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that is the challenge.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I share enough of my story to leave you wanting to know more without trying to tell you everything at once?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when I think about
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[SPEAKER_01]: My, what you said might say, elevator pitch, because if you're talking about business, it's an elevator pitch, how we introduce ourselves, but you know, everyday life no matter where we go, whether it's to the grocery store, or if it's introducing yourself to your child's new teacher, or your CEO of a business, it's the same thing when we introduce ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We all are nervous, we wonder what to say, and those things change even over time, like for instance,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I used to be K.C.
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[SPEAKER_01]: women's events, and so that was super easy to talk about because of course we put on these events and castles, mansions, golf clothes, wineries, and all other kind of fun event venues that people could come to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it was easy to say, it was niche down, but even then I realized a lot of times the way I introduced myself was too much like a resume, like
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[SPEAKER_01]: like pamper, get spoiled, all of those types of things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But today, we're going to learn how to re-look at how we introduce ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because of course, at B-Live changers, we talk about your purpose, his plan, and business, and in life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And really, it's your gifts, your talents, and your passions, that is who you are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so if you can get someone to know who you are and that first 30 to 60 seconds, that draws them
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[SPEAKER_01]: about who you really are and what you do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That makes you stand out against the other person who might just completely just say simply what they do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You want to leave the person wanting to know more about you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So here is the first question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm already feeling a little nervous back here because I don't know what the question's going to be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you want someone to remember
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, at the first five minutes of being with me, I want someone to know that I am who I say I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I am true and I am authentic and I am trustworthy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Those are very big principles of mine, and I want them to know that in the first five minutes of knowing me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So as I go through these questions, you can do the same thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you want people to remember in the first five minutes of knowing you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's get on to that second question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You have 30 seconds.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who do you help?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And why do we want to know you more?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, let me think about that for a second.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because it does throw you out for a little bit because we want them to know more about this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I just don't want to say, I'm a brand visibility specialist and a community builder.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, yes,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, that tells them a little bit about what I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All those things, yes, are important.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But within the first 30 seconds, they need to know who I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who do I help?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And why should we want to know more about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So a lot of times when I first meet someone, I say, I'm Kathy Codes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help small businesses like yourself get seen, known, and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What does that do?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It lets them immediately know, I'm here for them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm here to make sure their brand, their business, gets exposure by the connections that I have, by the audience that I have, and the heart that I have, that I love helping small businesses grow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so within the first 30 seconds, that's why I lead with that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm Kathy Coats.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and I help businesses get seen known and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So think about that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you were to ask yourself the same question, how would you answer it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now we're going to get on to that third question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: These all are really good and it gets you thinking because then you're going to start looking at the answers that you already have when you introduce yourself to someone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you're going to be like, okay, what do I sound like?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do I sound like a resume?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or do I really attract people and are they really getting to know who I am?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And are they wanting to know more about me at the end of the conversation?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because again, we don't want to tell everyone everything about who we are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or are they never want to connect with us again unless they actually need your service?
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[SPEAKER_01]: But is that the most important thing that they need your service?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, because a lot of times it's somebody that we know that they
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[SPEAKER_01]: need, or they know that needs our services.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's important to make sure people know who you are when you walk into the room if you're networking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you're meeting somebody for the first time, you're trying to build a um relationship and get to know them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is something you had to walk through that eventually became part of your purpose?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, there's many things I've walked through that became part of my purpose.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But the most recent thing is all this time of growing up and raising children and all the things I've done through life is really realizing that my son has a purpose as well.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's
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[SPEAKER_01]: Make sure every single day I was being a good mom doing the things they like to do like whether that would be Coloring or going outside and being able to spend time outside.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You love to go to the car wash and so we would spend time going to the car wash But what I really hadn't dug into was what was his real purpose?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is he here to do on earth like
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's more than him just being deaf and autistic, or that he likes to go outside, play basketball, or, you know, throw the ball with his brothers and sisters or go fishing, there was more to the story than that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I had to really figure out and hone in, and what I didn't realize that I should have a lot earlier is that he had some of the same passions that I did, and he loves to help people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He left to go around and organize my house.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He would go through and hang up all the clothes meticulously fold all the towels.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everything has to be put away in the drawer perfectly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I always thought it was maybe just a little bit of OCD, but it was really more than that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He likes helping people because what I started realizing as when we were around other people, he would try to help them too if their kids had toys on the floor.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He would pick them up if they had to spilled something he would try to clean it up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, all those things was he wanted to help too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when I come to that realization with Gabriel, I figured out, wow, he can help with doing the things that I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When we go all these places, we can help together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when we go to nonprofits, he goes in there and hangs up the clothes, or organizes the food in the pantry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He loves doing these things, and he leaves with a smile.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I know that that makes him happy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: With what that said, I would say that was the eventually the part
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[SPEAKER_01]: there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Man, some of these questions can get a little hard when you're asking them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have not seen these, so it is like on the spot, but that's what happens to us.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We don't always know the question someone's going to throw at us when we're talking to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How comfortable do you feel?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when you're at home, go ahead, grab these same questions, practice them, even if you have to record yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: it does help because it does get easier to think on the fly so let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is God asking you to step into that feels bigger than you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh goodness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Talk about smack me a good one, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I would say speaking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When I came in to do be life-changers, I was like, what?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Behind a camera, it is way different than it is when you have a cell phone in your hand.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, of course I did many live videos when we were doing our pop-up shopping events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've talked to people, it's easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hand me a mic.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can walk on a stage and speak to thousands of people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there is something about when I get in this room, behind this camera, it may look easy to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But woo, there is times I am like, it is not so easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what is that I think is bigger than me?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's really fitting out there and speaking more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that does mean being behind the camera more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's easy when you go to do a more like what you say, an influencer piece where you go in and to a restaurant and talk about them and show off everything they have.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or if you're going to an entertainment spot and you're having fun and it talks us on the fly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you're going to an event where everybody has their goods and services out and you're shouting each and every one of them out, that's super easy, but when it comes behind a camera or behind the mic sometimes it gets a little bit harder to say those things that just flow easily when you have a conversation with someone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So just like right here at JT Visuals, for instance.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is what's helped me come against those fears.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have to get in the room behind the mic behind the camera and then learn how to speak.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they've been amazing at coaching me, teaching me, showing me the right way to sit, where the mic should be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: all those kinds of things and that's what's great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some of us want to have a podcast, but there's a lot of editing to it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot of things behind the scenes that we don't see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It might be even easy for you to be behind the camera, but is it easy for you to edit it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you really have the time to make all the clips that it takes to be successful?
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what I love about JT visuals.
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[SPEAKER_01]: As it when I come in, I don't have to worry about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's one thing,
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[SPEAKER_01]: that they take off my plate and help me do to do what God has called me to do, and it's just amazing to be able to have this experience here, and every time I come in here, it's getting a little bit easier, every single time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like I can remember the first time I had to be back here by myself, I thought I was almost going to cry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, oh my gosh, this is hard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have never had something be this hard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So everybody is nervous when you start something new.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So just tackle it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But if you've ever been thinking about doing a podcast, you really should reach out to JT visuals.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They do an amazing job as you see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you can watch everyone of my episodes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's taking care of.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't have to make those clips.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's such a great feeling to be able to come in to people who love you so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: because they really do care and have my podcast being taking care of.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I would say if I'm stepping in feels bigger than me, that's when I'm saying going into that speaking part and teaching as a little bit harder than I thought it was gonna be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what's hard for you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm almost scared to grab it out of this jar.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I might starting to think, was this such a good idea?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not so sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I want you to know, this is how everybody feels.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not just you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes you have to be vulnerable of people until the truth.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So this week I was online, and one of my friends, who was an influencer right here in Kansas City, was a little vulnerable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I love that she did a clip and talked about the things I'm not so good at and it was really funny to watch because it's things that we all are not so good at and so sometimes I think we go around talking about I can do this I can do that and everybody starts comparing themselves to each other but it's great when you get behind a camera.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and you see that it's hard in different areas for everyone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So some people feel very comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Other people don't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just like what I told you, when you hand me a mic, put me on a stage, it's super comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When I'm behind here, you would think it's comfortable, but it's not always comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not being vulnerable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling you that because I want you to be successful too when you're introducing yourself or you're feeling uncomfortable to realize all of us have these 101 questions running through our mind when we go to introduce ourselves to someone for the very first time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So here we go, let's go with another question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do people often misunderstand about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this one's super easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I could talk about it right away.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do people misunderstand about me?
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[SPEAKER_01]: They think I still do events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When you come out of one niche into another,
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[SPEAKER_01]: and sometimes have to do pivots and change in your business or it grows or you may even change a total business like you may close one business down and go to another you could be a screen printer and go into you know doing graphic designs for somewhere else and it's a hard change is hard to pivot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it's still, you know, hard for people to understand Kathy Coats events no longer puts on pop-up shopping events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help strategize them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I go into businesses and help strategize their pop-ups.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that doesn't even mean that I have to have vendors.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's just like if they're wanting to have an experience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I come in and help with those events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's just a very little part of what I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I do that and I have taken the event side of my business and got a project manager who takes over the events and does that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I no longer put the events on, I promote those events using the audience that I have.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why do I do that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that I can do what my next part and next step in life is and that is be life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Helping people know what their God-given purpose is in business and in life and making a plan to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Telling real stories right here in Kansas City of people that are making a change.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And how do I do that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm able to go with my son, keep him busy,
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[SPEAKER_01]: and showcase places where he can pay it forward so that kindness keeps moving.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's a beautiful thing and I love being over on this other side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So if I was to say, what is that people often misunderstand as they think that I'm still in the event industry?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's think about you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you think people misunderstand about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: and it might not even be the message that you're saying it could be that you have just pivoted and want another direction.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So don't always think it's something you have done wrong because for a long time I thought I was doing something wrong because I thought why are people still thinking that I
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[SPEAKER_01]: and events planner.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I had another friend who as she does branding logos, website design, and they always thought that she made balloons.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And the reason that was is because she was really good at making balloon arches.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so
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[SPEAKER_01]: So she did those for a few people's party, which was great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It made her a little bit of extra cash, but you have to be careful because all of a sudden, everybody thought she was a balloon artist.
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[SPEAKER_01]: One really, she was a brand designer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But it happens that happens to all of us, so it's totally okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Alright, let's see what that next question is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is one part of your story that explains why you do what you do today?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have so many things about my story that explains why I do what I'm doing today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can remember way back when when I was young, I was always a person that people came to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If they needed advice, if they needed help, I am a helper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a helper at nature.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you take the annual grant test, that's what I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a helper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I try to
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[SPEAKER_01]: fixed things and make things right for people, I care, and so through life, all the different things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think everything you go through in life builds to who you are today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So from the very beginning, from when I was young to leading a song service at church or being in children's church to then going into being in and day care, and on and on and on, all those things were built up to make me the entrepreneur I am today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and to be able to still help people and give back to people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I really don't think it's just one part of your story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The story evolves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like a book.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We are a book.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like a chapter every time you flip a page that tells a little bit of more of your story and it goes on and that just makes you who you are today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, I think we only have one question left.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you couldn't use your job title, how would you explain what you do?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I help businesses get seen known and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That is what I could use to describe a visibility strategist and a community builder.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help people to get their name out there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're brand out there, draw traffic to them and help them to be seen known and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that would be what I would describe,
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[SPEAKER_01]: as my job title without using the title.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I hope you take these questions and practice at home with them yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: These questions, of course, were given to me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had several friends give me a question, so I could put them in a jar today and go over them just so that we could practice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and now if you want to practice some more at home, I hope you find it helpful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This conversation is also leading into something new for B-life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We are creating an in-person networking podcast audience live experience where you don't just come to watch, you'll have an opportunity to be part of the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're playing around with this experience in our head and we could use your help.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, if you're listening, you could always like email me at KathyCotyVents.com, or if you're on YouTube watching, just comment below.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If this is something that you could find helpful, so I'm going to give you this idea, and you guys give me feedback to what you think.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we thought about a few things that could be there and one of the first things we're going to do when we do launch it is we're going to help people tighten up their introductions of course you'll have 30 to 60 seconds to tell us who you are and what you do and what makes you someone we should want to know more about.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This isn't about memorizing a stiff elevator pitch or trying to sell everyone in the room.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's about learning how to speak about yourself with clarity and confidence, just like we practice today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when the right opportunity comes, you'll be ready for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You'll meet new people, practice your introduction, receive guidance, and leave feeling more confident about walking into the room.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And some of those introductions may even be featured right here on Be Life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: where we can come together and network together in a different way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what made us think about this?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, we wanted to do something a little bit different with networking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We always go to the same type of networking events, and they're all great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We need all of those.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All the ones that you're going to right now are great, but sometimes I think there are some things we can tighten up when it comes to our introduction, how to speak, being behind camera,
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[SPEAKER_01]: on mic is easy to practice those things sometimes by ourselves, but when we get in that situation that you have those nerves and your stomach and all those kinds of things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we want to network and just a different way so that you can leave feeling more confident and it doesn't matter if you're a new business just coming into it learning how to introduce yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Coming up with what we call quote unquote an elevator speech.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you have been in business for a long time, your SEO is all the same.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We still can make our introductions better.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We can feel more confident.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And at the same time being able to make those connections and collaborate with people in the room.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think putting the two things together is pretty fun.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you think?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let us know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So here's the challenge for the week.
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[SPEAKER_01]: record yourself answering the questions that we just went through or you can even look up more questions or have some friends ask you questions and give yourself 30 to 60 seconds to answer them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who do you help and what do you want people to remember about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Don't wait until it's perfect.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Record it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Listen to it and ask yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Would this make me want to know me more?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I hope this episode was helpful for you today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Remember, your story matters, your voice matters, and when you have the courage to show up as you really are, the right people can see you, hear you, and remember you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Make sure you follow B-life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Share this episode with someone who needs help finding their voice and stay connected for more details about our upcoming live audience experience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Until next time, keep using your story, your purpose and your voice to be a life changer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I realized a lot of times the way I introduced myself was too much like a resume.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I say, I'm Kathy Coates.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help small businesses like yourself get seen, known, and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm almost scared to grab it out of this jar.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm like starting to think, was this such a good idea?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, hello and welcome back to Be Life Changers, where we share real people, real purpose and real change on your host, Kathy Coates, and I believe every person has a story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And when we're willing to share those stories, we can encourage someone, open doors, and even change lives.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And today, we're going to be talking about something that we all can improve on.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Stop introducing yourself like a resume.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know if it's easy for you when you go to events or when you go to work, or maybe a place that you've never been for the first time, is it really hard for you to introduce yourself?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you find yourself feeling like you have to fit everything in within that first 30 seconds?
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[SPEAKER_01]: to 60 seconds, then this is the episode for you because we're gonna be talking about how to introduce ourselves and not sound like we're telling a resume and having to feel like we have to put it all in at one time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If someone handed you a microphone right now and you had 60 seconds to introduce yourself, what would you say?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And when you finished, would people actually remember you or would they introduction sound like everyone else's?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Today, I'm putting myself in a hot spot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have this jar right here, filled with questions I haven't prepared at all for.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some of my friends give me these questions.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And each one of these are designed to help me think about who we are, what makes our stories matter, and how we want people to remember us.
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[SPEAKER_01]: because sometimes the hardest person to introduce is ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Most of us have learned about introducing ourselves by saying our name, our title, our business, who we serve, what we have to offer in all of those types of things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But really, that is not how we should start an introduction out.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So today, I'm going to pull out a few questions for the basket and get myself 30 to 60 seconds to answer each one.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some will be fun and some will get personal and a few might be just a little bit uncomfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But that is the challenge.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Can I share enough of my story to leave you wanting to know more without trying to tell you everything at once?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when I think about
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[SPEAKER_01]: My, what you said might say, elevator pitch, because if you're talking about business, it's an elevator pitch, how we introduce ourselves, but you know, everyday life no matter where we go, whether it's to the grocery store, or if it's introducing yourself to your child's new teacher, or your CEO of a business, it's the same thing when we introduce ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We all are nervous, we wonder what to say, and those things change even over time, like for instance,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I used to be K.C.
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[SPEAKER_01]: women's events, and so that was super easy to talk about because of course we put on these events and castles, mansions, golf clothes, wineries, and all other kind of fun event venues that people could come to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it was easy to say, it was niche down, but even then I realized a lot of times the way I introduced myself was too much like a resume, like
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[SPEAKER_01]: like pamper, get spoiled, all of those types of things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But today, we're going to learn how to re-look at how we introduce ourselves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because of course, at B-Live changers, we talk about your purpose, his plan, and business, and in life.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And really, it's your gifts, your talents, and your passions, that is who you are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so if you can get someone to know who you are and that first 30 to 60 seconds, that draws them
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[SPEAKER_01]: about who you really are and what you do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That makes you stand out against the other person who might just completely just say simply what they do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You want to leave the person wanting to know more about you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So here is the first question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm already feeling a little nervous back here because I don't know what the question's going to be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that's okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you want someone to remember
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, at the first five minutes of being with me, I want someone to know that I am who I say I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I am true and I am authentic and I am trustworthy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Those are very big principles of mine, and I want them to know that in the first five minutes of knowing me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So as I go through these questions, you can do the same thing.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you want people to remember in the first five minutes of knowing you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Let's get on to that second question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You have 30 seconds.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who do you help?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And why do we want to know you more?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, let me think about that for a second.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because it does throw you out for a little bit because we want them to know more about this.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I just don't want to say, I'm a brand visibility specialist and a community builder.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, yes,
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, that tells them a little bit about what I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All those things, yes, are important.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But within the first 30 seconds, they need to know who I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who do I help?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And why should we want to know more about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So a lot of times when I first meet someone, I say, I'm Kathy Codes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help small businesses like yourself get seen, known, and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What does that do?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It lets them immediately know, I'm here for them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm here to make sure their brand, their business, gets exposure by the connections that I have, by the audience that I have, and the heart that I have, that I love helping small businesses grow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so within the first 30 seconds, that's why I lead with that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm Kathy Coats.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and I help businesses get seen known and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So think about that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you were to ask yourself the same question, how would you answer it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now we're going to get on to that third question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: These all are really good and it gets you thinking because then you're going to start looking at the answers that you already have when you introduce yourself to someone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you're going to be like, okay, what do I sound like?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do I sound like a resume?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or do I really attract people and are they really getting to know who I am?
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[SPEAKER_01]: And are they wanting to know more about me at the end of the conversation?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Because again, we don't want to tell everyone everything about who we are.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or are they never want to connect with us again unless they actually need your service?
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[SPEAKER_01]: But is that the most important thing that they need your service?
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[SPEAKER_01]: No, because a lot of times it's somebody that we know that they
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[SPEAKER_01]: need, or they know that needs our services.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's important to make sure people know who you are when you walk into the room if you're networking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you're meeting somebody for the first time, you're trying to build a um relationship and get to know them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is something you had to walk through that eventually became part of your purpose?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, there's many things I've walked through that became part of my purpose.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But the most recent thing is all this time of growing up and raising children and all the things I've done through life is really realizing that my son has a purpose as well.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He's
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[SPEAKER_01]: Make sure every single day I was being a good mom doing the things they like to do like whether that would be Coloring or going outside and being able to spend time outside.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You love to go to the car wash and so we would spend time going to the car wash But what I really hadn't dug into was what was his real purpose?
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is he here to do on earth like
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's more than him just being deaf and autistic, or that he likes to go outside, play basketball, or, you know, throw the ball with his brothers and sisters or go fishing, there was more to the story than that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I had to really figure out and hone in, and what I didn't realize that I should have a lot earlier is that he had some of the same passions that I did, and he loves to help people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He left to go around and organize my house.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He would go through and hang up all the clothes meticulously fold all the towels.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Everything has to be put away in the drawer perfectly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I always thought it was maybe just a little bit of OCD, but it was really more than that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He likes helping people because what I started realizing as when we were around other people, he would try to help them too if their kids had toys on the floor.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He would pick them up if they had to spilled something he would try to clean it up.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, all those things was he wanted to help too.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when I come to that realization with Gabriel, I figured out, wow, he can help with doing the things that I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When we go all these places, we can help together.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when we go to nonprofits, he goes in there and hangs up the clothes, or organizes the food in the pantry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: He loves doing these things, and he leaves with a smile.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I know that that makes him happy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: With what that said, I would say that was the eventually the part
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[SPEAKER_01]: there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Man, some of these questions can get a little hard when you're asking them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have not seen these, so it is like on the spot, but that's what happens to us.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We don't always know the question someone's going to throw at us when we're talking to them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: How comfortable do you feel?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when you're at home, go ahead, grab these same questions, practice them, even if you have to record yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: it does help because it does get easier to think on the fly so let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is God asking you to step into that feels bigger than you?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh goodness.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Talk about smack me a good one, right?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I would say speaking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When I came in to do be life-changers, I was like, what?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Behind a camera, it is way different than it is when you have a cell phone in your hand.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I mean, of course I did many live videos when we were doing our pop-up shopping events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I've talked to people, it's easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Hand me a mic.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can walk on a stage and speak to thousands of people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But there is something about when I get in this room, behind this camera, it may look easy to you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But woo, there is times I am like, it is not so easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what is that I think is bigger than me?
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's really fitting out there and speaking more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that does mean being behind the camera more.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's easy when you go to do a more like what you say, an influencer piece where you go in and to a restaurant and talk about them and show off everything they have.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Or if you're going to an entertainment spot and you're having fun and it talks us on the fly.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you're going to an event where everybody has their goods and services out and you're shouting each and every one of them out, that's super easy, but when it comes behind a camera or behind the mic sometimes it gets a little bit harder to say those things that just flow easily when you have a conversation with someone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So just like right here at JT Visuals, for instance.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This is what's helped me come against those fears.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have to get in the room behind the mic behind the camera and then learn how to speak.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And they've been amazing at coaching me, teaching me, showing me the right way to sit, where the mic should be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: all those kinds of things and that's what's great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Some of us want to have a podcast, but there's a lot of editing to it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: There's a lot of things behind the scenes that we don't see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It might be even easy for you to be behind the camera, but is it easy for you to edit it?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Do you really have the time to make all the clips that it takes to be successful?
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's what I love about JT visuals.
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[SPEAKER_01]: As it when I come in, I don't have to worry about it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's one thing,
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[SPEAKER_01]: that they take off my plate and help me do to do what God has called me to do, and it's just amazing to be able to have this experience here, and every time I come in here, it's getting a little bit easier, every single time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Like I can remember the first time I had to be back here by myself, I thought I was almost going to cry.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I was like, oh my gosh, this is hard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have never had something be this hard.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So everybody is nervous when you start something new.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So just tackle it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But if you've ever been thinking about doing a podcast, you really should reach out to JT visuals.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They do an amazing job as you see.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And you can watch everyone of my episodes.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's taking care of.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I don't have to make those clips.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So it's such a great feeling to be able to come in to people who love you so much.
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[SPEAKER_01]: because they really do care and have my podcast being taking care of.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I would say if I'm stepping in feels bigger than me, that's when I'm saying going into that speaking part and teaching as a little bit harder than I thought it was gonna be.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what's hard for you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Now, let's go on to that next question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm almost scared to grab it out of this jar.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I might starting to think, was this such a good idea?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Not so sure.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I want you to know, this is how everybody feels.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's not just you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Sometimes you have to be vulnerable of people until the truth.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So this week I was online, and one of my friends, who was an influencer right here in Kansas City, was a little vulnerable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But I love that she did a clip and talked about the things I'm not so good at and it was really funny to watch because it's things that we all are not so good at and so sometimes I think we go around talking about I can do this I can do that and everybody starts comparing themselves to each other but it's great when you get behind a camera.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and you see that it's hard in different areas for everyone.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So some people feel very comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Other people don't.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Just like what I told you, when you hand me a mic, put me on a stage, it's super comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When I'm behind here, you would think it's comfortable, but it's not always comfortable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm not being vulnerable.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm telling you that because I want you to be successful too when you're introducing yourself or you're feeling uncomfortable to realize all of us have these 101 questions running through our mind when we go to introduce ourselves to someone for the very first time.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So here we go, let's go with another question.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do people often misunderstand about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Oh, this one's super easy.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I could talk about it right away.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do people misunderstand about me?
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[SPEAKER_01]: They think I still do events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: When you come out of one niche into another,
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[SPEAKER_01]: and sometimes have to do pivots and change in your business or it grows or you may even change a total business like you may close one business down and go to another you could be a screen printer and go into you know doing graphic designs for somewhere else and it's a hard change is hard to pivot.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so it's still, you know, hard for people to understand Kathy Coats events no longer puts on pop-up shopping events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help strategize them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I go into businesses and help strategize their pop-ups.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And that doesn't even mean that I have to have vendors.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's just like if they're wanting to have an experience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I come in and help with those events.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That's just a very little part of what I do.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I do that and I have taken the event side of my business and got a project manager who takes over the events and does that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I no longer put the events on, I promote those events using the audience that I have.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Why do I do that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that I can do what my next part and next step in life is and that is be life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Helping people know what their God-given purpose is in business and in life and making a plan to do that.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Telling real stories right here in Kansas City of people that are making a change.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And how do I do that?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm able to go with my son, keep him busy,
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[SPEAKER_01]: and showcase places where he can pay it forward so that kindness keeps moving.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's a beautiful thing and I love being over on this other side.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So if I was to say, what is that people often misunderstand as they think that I'm still in the event industry?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let's think about you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you think people misunderstand about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: and it might not even be the message that you're saying it could be that you have just pivoted and want another direction.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So don't always think it's something you have done wrong because for a long time I thought I was doing something wrong because I thought why are people still thinking that I
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[SPEAKER_01]: and events planner.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so I had another friend who as she does branding logos, website design, and they always thought that she made balloons.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And the reason that was is because she was really good at making balloon arches.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And so
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[SPEAKER_01]: So she did those for a few people's party, which was great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It made her a little bit of extra cash, but you have to be careful because all of a sudden, everybody thought she was a balloon artist.
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[SPEAKER_01]: One really, she was a brand designer.
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[SPEAKER_01]: But it happens that happens to all of us, so it's totally okay.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Alright, let's see what that next question is.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What is one part of your story that explains why you do what you do today?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Wow.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I have so many things about my story that explains why I do what I'm doing today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I can remember way back when when I was young, I was always a person that people came to.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If they needed advice, if they needed help, I am a helper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a helper at nature.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you take the annual grant test, that's what I am.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I'm a helper.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I try to
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[SPEAKER_01]: fixed things and make things right for people, I care, and so through life, all the different things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I think everything you go through in life builds to who you are today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So from the very beginning, from when I was young to leading a song service at church or being in children's church to then going into being in and day care, and on and on and on, all those things were built up to make me the entrepreneur I am today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and to be able to still help people and give back to people.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And I really don't think it's just one part of your story.
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[SPEAKER_01]: The story evolves.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like a book.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We are a book.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's like a chapter every time you flip a page that tells a little bit of more of your story and it goes on and that just makes you who you are today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Okay, I think we only have one question left.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you couldn't use your job title, how would you explain what you do?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, I help businesses get seen known and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: That is what I could use to describe a visibility strategist and a community builder.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I help people to get their name out there.
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[SPEAKER_01]: They're brand out there, draw traffic to them and help them to be seen known and remembered.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So that would be what I would describe,
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[SPEAKER_01]: as my job title without using the title.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I hope you take these questions and practice at home with them yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: These questions, of course, were given to me.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I had several friends give me a question, so I could put them in a jar today and go over them just so that we could practice.
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[SPEAKER_01]: and now if you want to practice some more at home, I hope you find it helpful.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This conversation is also leading into something new for B-life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We are creating an in-person networking podcast audience live experience where you don't just come to watch, you'll have an opportunity to be part of the show.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We're playing around with this experience in our head and we could use your help.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So, if you're listening, you could always like email me at KathyCotyVents.com, or if you're on YouTube watching, just comment below.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If this is something that you could find helpful, so I'm going to give you this idea, and you guys give me feedback to what you think.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we thought about a few things that could be there and one of the first things we're going to do when we do launch it is we're going to help people tighten up their introductions of course you'll have 30 to 60 seconds to tell us who you are and what you do and what makes you someone we should want to know more about.
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[SPEAKER_01]: This isn't about memorizing a stiff elevator pitch or trying to sell everyone in the room.
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[SPEAKER_01]: It's about learning how to speak about yourself with clarity and confidence, just like we practice today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So when the right opportunity comes, you'll be ready for it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: You'll meet new people, practice your introduction, receive guidance, and leave feeling more confident about walking into the room.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And some of those introductions may even be featured right here on Be Life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: where we can come together and network together in a different way.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So what made us think about this?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Well, we wanted to do something a little bit different with networking.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We always go to the same type of networking events, and they're all great.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We need all of those.
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[SPEAKER_01]: All the ones that you're going to right now are great, but sometimes I think there are some things we can tighten up when it comes to our introduction, how to speak, being behind camera,
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[SPEAKER_01]: on mic is easy to practice those things sometimes by ourselves, but when we get in that situation that you have those nerves and your stomach and all those kinds of things.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So we want to network and just a different way so that you can leave feeling more confident and it doesn't matter if you're a new business just coming into it learning how to introduce yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Coming up with what we call quote unquote an elevator speech.
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[SPEAKER_01]: If you have been in business for a long time, your SEO is all the same.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We still can make our introductions better.
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[SPEAKER_01]: We can feel more confident.
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[SPEAKER_01]: And at the same time being able to make those connections and collaborate with people in the room.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So I think putting the two things together is pretty fun.
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[SPEAKER_01]: What do you think?
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[SPEAKER_01]: So let us know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: So here's the challenge for the week.
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[SPEAKER_01]: record yourself answering the questions that we just went through or you can even look up more questions or have some friends ask you questions and give yourself 30 to 60 seconds to answer them.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who are you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Who do you help and what do you want people to remember about you?
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[SPEAKER_01]: Don't wait until it's perfect.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Record it.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Listen to it and ask yourself.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Would this make me want to know me more?
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[SPEAKER_01]: I hope this episode was helpful for you today.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Remember, your story matters, your voice matters, and when you have the courage to show up as you really are, the right people can see you, hear you, and remember you.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Make sure you follow B-life changers.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Share this episode with someone who needs help finding their voice and stay connected for more details about our upcoming live audience experience.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Until next time, keep using your story, your purpose and your voice to be a life changer.