Why Collaboration Always Beats Competition in Business

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[SPEAKER_00]: I just really came to the point of, I may shut this down.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I may just have to let it go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I'll just sell what I have.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a secret silent problem that I think a lot of entrepreneurs have.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We were networking those businesses together.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we had the events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we were doing nine of them a month before COVID.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Wait a second, I'm looking at this wrong.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He wants to be involved.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, he's been telling you this whole time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, he wants to be involved.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Hello friends, welcome back to B-Live Changers.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I am Kathy Coach, your host, and today's episode is super special and I do mean special.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because before we get into anything, I need to take a moment and say first to JT visuals and his team.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you for believing in this vision, for believing in B-Live Changers, and helping make this possible.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We are coming up on one year of this podcast and we're officially crossed 100 subscribers to YouTube.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I wanted to say thank you so very much.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You guys have been amazing, you're like family.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It is so easy just to walk in here, record the podcast, go home, and you know that means a lot to me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And all of you that don't know will know here very soon why it means so much to be able to go back home.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and be able to plug back in and be a mom, a wife, and then, you know, there for so many businesses that are in need.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I know that might sound small to some people, but when you're building something with purpose, when you're showing up consistently, when you're doing it from heart, it means everything.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So to every single one of you who have watched, who have shared, who have subscribed,

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm telling you, thank you from the very bottom of my heart.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It means so much to ask, it means so much to me, it means so much to JT visuals.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Our hard work, making people know about their community, plug-in, show local love.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It means so much because this is not just a podcast.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a movement.

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[SPEAKER_04]: oh yeah it's good so yeah yeah so thank you I just want to thank you and you are on the podcast who you are outside the podcast too like sharing local love she says it's not just some marketing or PR conversation thing that's like supposed to sound good but it's that you actually are right outside and off the mics as well so right right cool it's a blessing for us to have you

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, thank you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I appreciate it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It just means a lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I said, today we're going to take and just blow it up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's been a hunt.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We've got 100 subscribers, which is super cool.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I just remember that from way back in the day when we first got started, you know, with KC women's events, you know, that first hundred is so exciting.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then, you know, you get to, you know, now, you know, 12,000 and it just keeps growing and growing and seeing people carry that same passion you do, you know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: about, um, loving their community, um, showing that local love.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It means a lot.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And that first 100 mark, at least for YouTube, is like where things start speeding up a little more, but the first thousand, that's the absolute hardest.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And then after that, you kind of start blinking and you're like, before you even get 100, like, five subscribers, fields, feel like a lot.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And then when you get past a thousand, then it's like, oh, I get, I just got another

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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, I just got nothing.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So it's like it's really snowballing and snowballs can turn into I always say snowball versus avalanche, but snowballs and avalanches can be the same thing.

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[SPEAKER_04]: The snowball can trigger like an avalanche and this would be a good.

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[SPEAKER_00]: you know I think we have a lot of momentum going on you know especially you know last year we really plugged in and pushed very hard and being consistent.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean consistency matters you know I'm getting in there you know posting every day and you know finally getting a team you know we got Monique on is like to go over the event side of things you know not being able to

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[SPEAKER_00]: to have him to worry about all of that because I knew there was a pivot coming.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There was a change coming, and Because you know with my son, I have a son Gabriel a lot of you know who he is and some of you don't He's definitely on to a second.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He's home with me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He's 30 years old now 30 and I know I know and so that was my total why I started you know in 2016 and We were 95 90 yep he was born in 95 1995 yep yep

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so he's born in 1995.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We knew at seven days old he was deaf.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then he was born with the virus called CMV, which is Clyde omega virus, and it's very rare.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So like me, and you could have that virus right now.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you wouldn't even know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We wouldn't have any symptoms at all.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we could get a flu like symptom, but the only person that's really in danger of the virus is a pregnant woman or a brand new infant.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so they think that he literally got it while in the womb.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so when he came out, he was born with, um, you supposed to have 250,000 platelets, and he had about 1,200.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so he'd have to go in and do platelet transfusions.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So he is our miracle baby because if he would not have produced those platelets then he would have died by the age of three months.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Wow.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So yes, when we were in and out and here I was, you know, had been married just a couple of years and so I was barely 21, you know, going on 22.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was very young mom as it was and then, you know, having to deal with a

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[SPEAKER_00]: I knew I had my first son and then Gabriel and then just that was just a whole lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you know, I've had a whole lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've known what it's like to decide to be home to raise your kids and be a mom of a special needs son.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that's where all that passion came from of course being an entrepreneur at heart.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, all those years of experience is really what's led, you know, to me finding a way to be able to stay home and be with him.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We've decided we're a big family and so we've decided that he could be with us.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't need to go into a home.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He loves doing things with us, we keep him just as busy as any day services and things like that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He loves to like stuff the envelopes or, you know, he does a lot of things for smaller businesses, like get their business cards ready.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Put some little envelopes so they get with like, you know, one of my clients does cleaning.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so they have like the magic eraser sponge.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, love that thing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He puts it in a little plastic container and the business card in there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that keeps him busy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He loves to work.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He loves doing those things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was able to create a business around the things that he could do.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's been a blessing through all of that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we've kind of had to grow into,

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[SPEAKER_00]: Knowing what I could do while he was in school is when Casey women's events came about and you know We were hosting events and castles mansion golf clubs wine rings all those fun event venues We got a lot of people and coming to those because I wanted women to be able to escape We're all givers, you know, we are a hundred percent always giving all the time

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[SPEAKER_00]: and I wanted them to be able to come in for three hours and get that shopping, pampering prizes, but they love to do and we always did it in these unique spots to make them still special.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then of course those vendors that were popping up, that was a way for them to get their brand out, to get sales and you know, build their audiences well.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so it was just a win

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's always an end-toe.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that happens in business, so there's always an end-toe.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you have to be ready for that pivot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to be ready for that change.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, our audience was growing, and, of course, about the same time he was coming out of school.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We put him in day services, which was working well, because I wanted that kind of school model at first, but then COVID hit.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And when COVID hit, we had to pull him back and he closed his hands, a lot of times autistic kids when they have big change, they will have an eye column little ticks, but I mean like they're just little things they picked up, that it becomes a habit and he closed his hands.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we've spent all this time trying to get him to open his hands back up because of that kind of, it's not, it was traumatic to him coming from one place and back.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so of course, it was traumatic for our own business and everybody else's business at that time, you know, I was pivoting and helping him at the same time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so we were bringing everything online and then that's when I learned about the online, you know, learning how to get people's brand going online.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was the one taking over what Michelle, my business partner used to do because she was the one that took care of all our social media and things like that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And, you know, I thought, you know, well, I can either quit or I can, or we can pursue and go on, you know, and so through that, you know, we kept going and when we got out of COVID, there was a choice.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I could either go back to doing these events and I did try for a little while.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But having him home, I was quickly that pivoting point was I quickly was, you know, finding myself

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[SPEAKER_00]: overwhelmed because I was trying to do it all, you know, because that time we'd already started knowledge networking, which we were networking those businesses together, and we had the events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so you're trying to fill events with, you know, anywhere from 25 to 50 vendors.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we were doing nine of them a month before COVID.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So coming back out, and now I have a son who's permanently home with me all the time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And when he is bored, oh my goodness.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's like when he's bored.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, what's the, oh my goodness.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my, like what am I picturing when he's bored?

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[SPEAKER_00]: So when he is bored, it is like, I mean, he gets into things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He likes to eat.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So we literally had to put locks on the door because he would get up at midnight and be trying to eat.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, like I do that midnight snack, you know, I get it.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Sometimes I feel like cooking a steak and then we all do it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We all do it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I'm letting him have a snack.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Don't hit me.

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[SPEAKER_04]: If you ever dreams about like waterfalls or water and then you wake up from that dream and you're like, man, I'm super thirsty and you get up and you like drink a gallon of water.

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[SPEAKER_04]: that never happens to me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Never.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Never.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Never.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Never.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's a natural thing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But having just going to one thing to another, he likes to stay busy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I mean, I like to stay busy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I had to come to find that he's a lot like me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He doesn't if he's bored, then of course, you know, things may get broke.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, he'll go in and like open the door to throw a last plate or something into the floor, or you know, because because what he's trying to do is get my attention and say, mom, I want to do something.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so all these different things I had to learn was just a way, like, I mean, think about it when you're really hungry and you're hungry, you can be kind of irritable with people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yep.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's true.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, that's no different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just a communication problem.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I wasn't knowing that he wasn't being kept busy enough.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So that's when I started finding things like, you know, him stuffing envelopes or folding the towels or different things like that home.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, um, quickly, I thought, okay, I was trying to take all this on and I was doing a good job because I am, like, him, a lot of energy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We can do a lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I've done a lot, been able to do nine events like that a month.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I was starting to get burnout very quick.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Trying to handle it on, taking all the social media, doing all my own posting.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, and I had to learn the first thing I did, which I tell everybody, is let somebody else complete your house.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Hmm.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know?

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[SPEAKER_00]: little simple things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I started letting those go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I just started praying, like, Lord, what are you trying to tell me?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, I know that, you know, the events are fun, but I really think that was a season.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, that's when all that pivot started.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, I really, you know, I have a whole other episode where we talk about how B-life changers came about.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so my, my pivot and my shift went to that, you know, and doing the podcast and getting that all started, um, but at that point in time, the pivot was like, what am I going to do?

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[SPEAKER_00]: I still was even though we had found a team.

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[SPEAKER_00]: even though I have someone now that's a project manager that takes over all the events and I don't have to do that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm more of like the mentor.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They come to me if they need help.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we have we're starting the coordinators corner where coordinators can come and be like,

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my gosh, like, you know, just kind of that outlet.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We have all of that going, but again, I just don't know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know if he's gonna sleep good at night.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I was waking up during the day and I would try to keep, you know, my routine's going because I'm all about talking about routines.

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[SPEAKER_00]: in my routine may start at eight in the morning, but it may start at, you know, 11.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it is all different times from what goes on with him.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's very real.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But he, again, was still very bored and I was like, I just really came to the point of, I may shut this down.

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[SPEAKER_00]: you know, I may just have to let it go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I'll just sell what I have.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?

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[SPEAKER_04]: By this, the whole operation.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like the whole operation or all of it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I was just like, I have no support.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, this is a key to it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like wait a second.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because if you're not making enough revenue coming in and when you, of course, community-based stuff doesn't make money at first.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like they'll events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you make okay money when you're doing events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm not doing the events anymore.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody else is doing them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you have...

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[SPEAKER_04]: So you mean by no support, like,

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[SPEAKER_04]: And then you mentioned revenue right after that no support as in like the financial backing that's makes it worth it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, and coming to the team too or like a little bit of all of it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you know now I have a team before I did so I was like okay first of all you know now you got to go back because You know before it was just events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you saw your pop-up shopping events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It was all there and knowing I can't take that load anymore.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So my business plan changed.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I think a lot of businesses run into that when you're pivoting, you know, you have to sometimes realize, wait a second, I need to stop and redo my whole entire business plan because you have to stop and think if it's not making money, then there's something missing in there, like, you know, I'm saying that's the point I was at all in the midst of.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, I am having a challenge of even everything that's going on home.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So trying to balance the two at the same time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I think, it's a silent, it's a secret silent problem that I think a lot of entrepreneurs have that's hard to express that goes on, like I'm changing my business plan.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm letting go of what I need to and hiring people in so that it can be profitable, but I'm still trying to balance this at home.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Okay, I actually stopped using balance a little bit because okay, lack of better words is like, it sometimes it feels like there's a little bit of a sacrifice in the brain as far as like you got to resist one side of you that's meant to be creative for the business.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And you have to resist that when you're with your family.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And then when you're in the business, you, you don't want to, like, too much time of all the things thinking about the personal side, but the family.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So then it's like, wait, hold on.

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[SPEAKER_04]: That doesn't seem right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I found, like, through coaching and through other things that, like, harmony.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I really like the word harmony.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I like that.

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[SPEAKER_04]: work life harmony, work life, you know or it's like just all of it and then while I was going through this Dave Ramsey clip comes up and he's someone asked him that and he's like whatever it is just be 100% present with wherever you are.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Exactly.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I was like you know what?

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[SPEAKER_04]: I am an adaptable person so I can do that and you know

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[SPEAKER_04]: business.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So if someone truly cares about me even in the personal side, they're going to allow me to speak about my business a little bit.

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[SPEAKER_04]: It's not like a full cut off.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But then it's also good practice for me to not speak it in a way that is confusing or boring or disengaging for someone else.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I got to learn the social skills of, they're not interested in this, right?

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[SPEAKER_04]: So I got to say it a different way, or I leave and get feedback and just, I don't know.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So now it's kind of a little more like a harmony.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that though.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I love that though because it does because I think it's a battle in our mind where when you think about balance, you know, it's that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's the battle I was having going on.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, can I do all of this?

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[SPEAKER_00]: When really it was that I needed to be 100% present where I was.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So it's not a teeter totter.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a miracle.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a miracle.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a miracle.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It all goes together, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that was really hard because it is hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And but it's

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, even in the midst of that because a lot of people who go into work or even in an office at home can say, okay, this is my designated time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And it was great because I finally got it to where, you know, a couple days of week.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm out in the community because I have someone home watching him and doing fun things with him.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then me and him do things, you know, during the week.

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[SPEAKER_00]: at that and then you got the rest of your family and the rest of the family.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but it's always continual thing going where a lot of people can go shut the door and say I'm working and that doesn't happen.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I always have to get up and go do something and come sit back down, go up and go do something and sit down.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was like in this battle of like, okay, even though I'm in the office Monday through Wednesday and I had my set structure, it was always getting in

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, because you feel bothered, I feel very bothered, but you know, but then I would get frustrated and angry and I was wondering what's going on and there's one of those things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, you know, I'm the one that goes around talking about being a positive on time and not letting these things go, but being positive when you feel negative is the hardest.

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[SPEAKER_03]: when you're hungry, you're tired and it's hot.

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[SPEAKER_03]: Those three combined, it's terrible.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's terrible.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's kind of like the secret battle I was going through, that I felt like I couldn't tell anybody about.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I know there's other people to feel it too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like,

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, I think I've got all this going.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We've got this momentum going.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Everything's growing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, we now, I finally have somebody that's over here running the event side.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I have someone who's, you know, helping with social media stuff.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I have all these things going, but they're still the secret frustration.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, why am I looking at this wrong for?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I really, it was a pivotal moment where I was like, you know what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is all about community.

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[SPEAKER_00]: everything I do is about community.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's about showing local love to each other, you know, and showing that, you know, whatever you give comes back to you and you show love.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It comes back to you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I don't know, I can even tell you when it happened.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we were just now getting it launched, but I started thinking, you know, what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's so many, what we did that give to gain event too as well.

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[SPEAKER_00]: you know where we give back to it where literally there's everybody that comes in we don't get paid to do it everybody like donates and this is huge thing to celebrate women's history month we do it every year and you had a previous episode with like three people yes yes yes it was just about two episodes ago so that would be I would have to

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[SPEAKER_00]: I will put it in the comments.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I will put it below.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Are you better remember right there?

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[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, I wrote it right in the comments.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I wrote it in the comments.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I wrote it in the comments.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Make sure I put, like, an episode that is.

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[SPEAKER_04]: It's the one with four people in the thumbnail.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, there you go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There you go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I'll put it in the comments.

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[SPEAKER_00]: but we work on it every year and it's to celebrate women and I'm doing all these things and And I think that was the moment that I was like wait a second.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm looking at this wrong like so he wants to be involved like he's been telling you this whole time like he wants to be involved like there was these little things that were happening and you know he's watching on the side and I'm thinking

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so there's a couple of meetings he ended up having to go with me, which was fine and like he ended up like smiling for the picture and I started thinking wait a minute like you know if we're expecting I got we're always talking about small business showing local love to each other you want the community to come in and show love to you Well, first of all, we got to show local love to each other like businesses.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it's very powerful.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because whatever we want a traction to come to us, we need to be giving it already.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But there's so much competition out there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Businesses are always in competition.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They think they have to be like one up the other one.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Or it's sort of odd.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Which in a lot of ways we should, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Huh, what?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So what?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Try to one up each other.

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[SPEAKER_00]: No.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Why can't you?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, like, again.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Well, if there's another podcast to you, it is exactly what we do.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm not going to go and destroy them so I go up.

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[SPEAKER_04]: What I'm going to do is just be better.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean, so it's not like in a there is a bad competition where you're like you have to tear someone down just to bring yourself up That's not that because I think I mean, I think there is a lot of undercutting doing things to take people's customers You know just different stuff that those are those are the ones that are like When I say Healthy competition is good.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and I call it healthy competition, but to be in healthy competition with someone I have to know you

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I mean, I have to know where your heart's coming from or I may take it as you are trying to understand me when really I'm just trying to be better.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we could be better what together.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That makes sense.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like so.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that was as whole thing came out of is that, you know, one business paying it forward to an other business.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And it could even it doesn't have to be the same industry.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's the end of the day.

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[SPEAKER_04]: We good for the customer.

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[SPEAKER_04]: All right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: That's what it's all about.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, no, be good for the customer, but yes, but I mean, it is uplifting each other.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But when you are, when you know each other, you can be better together and you can rise together.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Just like, why is that?

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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm just digging in.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I, I believe that, but why why, why is, why does collaboration usually make it better?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because there's power in numbers, because for instance, with

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[SPEAKER_00]: Kathy Coates events when I let go of the event side of things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't really let go of it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I had this audience, it was already built.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I have a group with 6,000 vendors and I can pull from at any time to fill a show.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Then I'd see these other girls out there starting these events, had good hearts, wanted to do what I had already spent 10 years doing the blood, the sweat, the tears, you know, trying to get those people to come.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Then I realized, well, I could either just keep that to myself or just let it die off.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Or I could share that with someone with the same heart, so most sophisticated events, Monique.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, cool.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: She's on here.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_00]: She was on here.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And she's my project manager now, because I mean, she has such a heart now that when I'm helping other coordinators, because we've got the coordinators corner that all comes together.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So if you are a coordinator and you are trying to fill events,

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[SPEAKER_00]: Make sure you reach out to me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I am there to help you at any point in time because I truly believe this is where collaboration comes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is where cross-promoting comes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We all have that same goal of getting customers through our door for people to our events.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And now though people in that group, like why did they join that group?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Why did they join the vendor?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Why did the vendor, yeah?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, because they wanted to be in another vendor show.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So then when you share it, you're not just sharing it, when collaboration with most sophisticated events, you're also sharing it with.

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[SPEAKER_04]: the vendors and giving more opportunities, which adds more value to them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So that's a whole circle.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a whole circle that feeds us there in any model.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're just using the events for it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it just says.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But you know, so I could have been stingy and said Monique.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You're starting from zero, just like me, you have to feel everything I did.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Or I could say, Monique, come here, let me share my vendors.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I already have because what it helps my vendors are already happy because now they want what do they want?

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[SPEAKER_00]: They want shows to be in.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They want good quality shows and they know that that's the only thing I will put on as good quality.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not going to just throw up something just for.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Have you in event?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Okay, so is it as black and white as we think, like where it's like?

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[SPEAKER_04]: collaborations always better than competition.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But like, if there's such thing as good competition, is there such thing as bad collaboration?

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[SPEAKER_04]: And that's even worse than like,

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, yeah, she still have to be careful.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, just like when you go choose somewhere to shop from or you go choose to buy a new car or whatever it is, you're gonna make sure you do your due diligence and you're not going to do business just with anybody.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So, yes, it's the same thing with collaboration.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The reason I collaborated with Monique with most sophisticated events is she had my heart.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I got to know her first ball and that's where networking comes in.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why it's so powerful because you get to know the true person, you know, just when I come along with you and arise you up, if you're out there embezzling money, she and stealing, I'm not partnering with you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Does that make sense?

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're not going to have a collaboration.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Which if you know about it, though, then, but if you get it, they're bad at it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's what networking comes in because you get to know people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's how when you, I become a friend with somebody we either stay friends or we part because we don't have enough likeness as that makes sense.

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[SPEAKER_04]: What kind of the same thing have you ever found a partnership that you need?

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[SPEAKER_04]: But you didn't really.

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[SPEAKER_04]: like, the culture of the performance, no, but no, like, I know what you're trying to say with that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, is there somebody that I could have used or would have advanced my business and be in partners with them?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, maybe that's one more outsourcing.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like, maybe there's just like big calls, maybe not call center, but like a sales people, you know, you get those cold emails all a time.

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[SPEAKER_04]: If we appointment set and convert this many people,

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[SPEAKER_04]: would that be worth it to you, you know, they're trying to get you to answer whatever which some of them might be legit.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But if you did that, usually what they're trying to do is like, get you to need them.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Which really all businesses do that too.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like you want them to keep coming back.

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[SPEAKER_04]: They usually do it at a level where it's almost like they're taking revenue from your,

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[SPEAKER_04]: business but they're still providing growth.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I don't know so like do you ever like see that?

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[SPEAKER_00]: So like as someone say and they can get you so many subscribers or like so are you trying to talk about those people that come in and say they can grow?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like how do you manage that kind of conversation or that?

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[SPEAKER_04]: How do you approach deciding on that?

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[SPEAKER_00]: like approached deciding on who I'm going to partner with and who I'm not.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, and maybe like someone that you know less of and you feel like you need it.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So yes, I'm in need, but I don't know this.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Oh, you don't know the product or the business or something.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I always say just like I tell my vendors like we really had this go on recently.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a lot of scamming that goes on.

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[SPEAKER_00]: there's a lot of good things and there's a lot of scamming like we have to be very careful when we first put an event out we post the event and we have everything locked because of course that's where I tell people make sure you're really invest in your name like Kathy at KathyCotes events.com yeah don't just do some and then I have it come through when they buy tickets or if they buy or they come to sign up for an event it always has my name KathyCotes events

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Or, you know, most sophisticated events, that's what her says.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Since we're partner, I'm just going to use her for an example because what happens is when we put it in there, people go under the comments and say, yes, we're still accepting vendors, messages now and literally the other day, people did that and I think like five people signed up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and it was not with them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we have all the legit.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's just training those because scammers know there's going to be those few that are new and don't know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So a seasoned vendor would have not usually went for it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They may have almost been tricked, but would not have give their money because when they at the end, they would have seen wait a minute.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's not Monique or no, it's not Kathy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I always tell vendors do your due diligence and it's the same way when you go to partner with somebody.

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[SPEAKER_00]: If someone's going to come and say, hey, I can grow your partnership by this, first of all, it's going to be a red flag because how are you going to do it that fast?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like it depends on what they're promising.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, like as you spilled the name wrong anyways, like we have no eye in our name.

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[SPEAKER_00]: right there you know it's like you're like you didn't even know like exactly like yeah because J.T.

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[SPEAKER_00]: visuals without the eyes before the meets the eye right yeah I mean exactly but people that follow you and know you know that but someone who may have just first seen you could be judged by that

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[SPEAKER_00]: So those little things I always say do your due diligence like when I know about a company and I don't and they could provide something that I need I don't just jump on it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like when you go buy a car.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's unwise for you to just go Buy a car and not do your due diligence of know how much that car is it?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we're even wait me and my husband have a yeah my husband have a thing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We don't buy that day.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We wait a day

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[SPEAKER_00]: like we're going to make a commitment to the next day just because it is the same way when I do business with other people especially if I don't know them we're going to do our due diligence we're going to look and see is that something that I need yes okay first check

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[SPEAKER_00]: All right, now let's go look into that business.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We said reputation, do I know someone who's using them?

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[SPEAKER_04]: And if it's one that you're like me, and I feel like they could do it, but I'm just nervous about trusting them because they seem a little upfront, more than I want, then you can go and look up alternatives, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I always say that, you know, that's a very good thing is making sure you're getting out there checking double checking and all that kind of stuff.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_04]: For you, Kathy, you have an advantage.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Why is that?

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[SPEAKER_04]: You can be trusted way easier than most people.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Do you know why?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Why is that?

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[SPEAKER_04]: literally just because you're on this podcast, you have your show and you're out there putting clips out.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So when people see you, they feel that they can trust you a lot more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, yeah, because I see, I'm consistent.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They see that I'm showing up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's goes to any business.

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is why you need to show up.

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is why you need to consistently be posting and getting what you're doing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And whatever you're providing, showing that you're providing it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like there's always clips of events going on.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's clips of me working with people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There's clips of me bringing businesses on because what am I about showing local love?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Where can we show local love?

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[SPEAKER_00]: where can they meet community shop?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Where can they do these things?

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[SPEAKER_04]: And you show good local love by making people feel like they can be understood by you, too.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like when you have a guest on here, I can see it like you understand in your empathetic.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And so if you ever meet Kathy and person, too,

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[SPEAKER_04]: you understand.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So when you say, I've met Monique once, but I feel like I can really trust her just because you say so.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, because I don't bring this anybody on.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You won't see me in everybody.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Sorry.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So you have a reputation.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You may see you may see me walk into a room, but that doesn't.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You won't see me consistently be around certain people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: My circle is super small.

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[SPEAKER_00]: you know I support everybody I go out there and because I am for everybody I want to see everybody grow but my circle is super small because I want people to know you're going to be like known and trusted you know and I teach people that I teach them how to be seen

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[SPEAKER_00]: you know, to be known and remembered, but also trusted, and that's a gift.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I don't think everybody has that, you know, you have to really be vulnerable to people and let them see almost inside of you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think that's super important.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And when in collaboration, you do kind of have to be vulnerable with somebody.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to let him know, just like I was open at the very beginning.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, it's hard for people to say, I feel like I'm sinking.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I don't know how I'm going to handle all this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I have a business plan that I can't run because I have this, but that was my why.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can't change it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you see them saying that's so powerful because you have to be open to know that, you know, open with people and that's hard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So in collaboration, that can be hard sometimes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But what you gain out of that, you know, is, you know, of course I had Monique come in.

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[SPEAKER_00]: She took that side of things and what did that happen?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I helped her business grow and we rise together because I didn't have to, I still can make money off that one little piece that I made while I now have taken that audience.

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[SPEAKER_00]: that I grew is the audience Kathy Coast events that whole entire audience is wanting to show local love.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They're wanting to be in those businesses, shopping with those businesses, going to those events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so what do I do now as I take?

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[SPEAKER_00]: all businesses, whether you have a storefront or whether you're in events or if you haven't event coming, we put it across there so that that is an audience that prime will come to you and that's just huge.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And the timing is good to reactivate that group or whatever because

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[SPEAKER_04]: You know COVID kind of shut things down, but then now like here we are we're long after it and everyone kind of got tired of being inside anyways and so there's over compensation for a little bit and then now it's kind of settled back down but at a good healthy level we're finally starting to get like good movies again you know like mine feels like it's like taking some time with a little bit there's still

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[SPEAKER_04]: A lot of the good ones are on just streaming now and that's part of a problem for movie theaters, but things have kind of ramped up, but what else has ramped up just in society, and it affects us in ways we don't even realize, is AI.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And I recently had to buy one of those hard drives and it was like, okay, if you understand, this is 26 gigs for one of those three and a half inch hard drives.

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[SPEAKER_04]: If you don't know exactly what I'm talking about, just know that there's storage and I had to buy this device and it was like over $500 just for one of them and

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[SPEAKER_04]: I bought it like, maybe like three months ago, and it was like 330, and I'm like, wait, why the price hike?

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[SPEAKER_04]: And so I researched a lot, and a lot of people would think it was the tariffs or whatever, and maybe, like, I probably some of that is, but not that, like, do.

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[SPEAKER_04]: The primary reason after research was because of AI.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Wow, it was why this device price went up because now there's a lot of computing power and devices and storage

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[SPEAKER_04]: space needed and stuff.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So, but now even in the AI world where I get back to events is it's so fast pace, so going, we're all on computers, we're all scrolling, like things get better, we're wild constantly, it's like, wait, hold on.

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[SPEAKER_04]: What about touching grass?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like that's where the saying came from, like, go touch grass or whatever, like,

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[SPEAKER_00]: Go play outside, go do something like that, go play outside.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So there is a imagination.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Even though society feels stuck in algorithms and on their phone and addicted and all that, events are still huge.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like look at it, concerts, people want to go.

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[SPEAKER_04]: They want to experience something.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And so events are huge.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a big deal like well, if he has people again, I always say the reason when the reason I went into that and I do believe this is people still need even though we have

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[SPEAKER_00]: social media.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We have all these things where we can keep contact.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're still needing that physical touch.

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[SPEAKER_03]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Even that in person energy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that in person energy, I see you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm stopping with you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: All those kinds of things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_04]: You're podcasting, you're sharing all those information and stuff.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Why would someone go to your event?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Well, because you could actually meet her.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's so live, like just like we just had an event at the first Friday.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so Michelle and I always had this dream of when we first started KC women's events.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And we had put together the shopping was called spoiling me silly.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So there were shopping, pampering, prize.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You're good at women, you're good at women, you're good at women, you're good at women.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, but anyhow, so as Lady's night out, and there was always prizes, and we had this, like we bring a DJ, and we do these dances, because we always dream that there would be some kind of concert, like what is all the things women like to do?

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[SPEAKER_00]: We still like to dance, we have kids, but we don't wanna go to the club no more.

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[SPEAKER_00]: What is it we wanna do?

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[SPEAKER_00]: So we always did this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So our last event we did, most sophisticated events had ran it, I helped promote it, and my daughter, Genesis, she's getting ready to come out with her new album.

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[SPEAKER_00]: cool she's on an episode of this as she's on an episode I think she's like number two her three but anyway yeah she's got nominated for the best rapper in KC for yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah um I have gosh I gotta go and ask me I gotta go look and see who it's by but it's one of the you know how they always have that you can see yeah you don't put me on the carpet I don't know

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[SPEAKER_04]: I got a scam that was like, hey, congratulations.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You won this.

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[SPEAKER_00]: No, it's for real.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Many of the houses she had did her listening party during our pop-up shopping event, which is so cool because the guild, if you've not been there, it's a really cool venue in Crossroads.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And there was like all these places with your shopping.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Did they do like art shows there too?

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[SPEAKER_00]: I believe they have a big, big, big window.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, this one has a huge chandelier and side of it is,

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[SPEAKER_00]: very gorgeous.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so there was like two different rooms I had a bar in there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then you walk right outside and there's a courtyard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so outside, which we were praying off the rain that night, but outside there was a courtyard.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so she did her little listening party to where they could get to hear different songs that are going to be on the album that drops off.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It'll drop out in May, May fourth, I believe.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, and Star Wars day.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Star Wars day.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Star

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[SPEAKER_00]: Don't tell her that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But anyway, so it'll be made Genesis be with you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The book of Genesis chapter one.

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[SPEAKER_04]: May the beginning.

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[SPEAKER_00]: May the beginning be with you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There you go.

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[SPEAKER_04]: In the beginning, God created.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's right.

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[SPEAKER_00]: There you go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So anyway, so that's all coming out and I'm so we did the listening part.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So we had wanted that all these years to have a concert going on during our event.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So for here we are, I was 10 years in business and Monique's through the show and I finally had it the way we wanted it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's so cool to be able to see those things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't think a lot of people know though that sixty seven dollars of every hundred dollars spent locally stays in the community did you know that sixty seven dollars of every one hundred dollars in the community.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh nice okay yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah every dollar spent locally and sixty eight percent of people prefer to shop small businesses.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I have a thing that why why do you like to say it?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Well, okay.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Actually, I think it's just a little bit of a movement that people are starting to learn the effects and of it.

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[SPEAKER_04]: For me, I might be different.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I'm sorry.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So I might be different because I just want a good product.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Right.

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[SPEAKER_04]: If it is what it is, I just want it for what it is.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But if someone else can match that or better and their local, boom, I'm going to local.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Every time.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But you pretty much can do that almost every time.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But I'm almost.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It depends on what I think.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, it depends on what it is.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So like, listen.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Most of the time coffee shops can be Starbucks, you know, right, definitely, but a lot of times they can't beat the convenience of Starbucks.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So because of that side of things, we all still go to Starbucks, but then plus the franchise owner is local, I don't know, so I overthink that, I overthink that a lot, but I, any change I can to support a local business and they actually have something a desire or want to invest in then.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I think, you know, and I was like that a lot in my younger and you're very much younger.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So as you get older, you're probably changing your views a little bit, but I'm just saying, I mean, I get it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I get it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But the reason I'm more passionate about it now is really, small businesses create nearly two out of three jobs in the US.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So that small businesses, two, three.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's what's behind it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like if I didn't have my own business,

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[SPEAKER_00]: I wouldn't have been able to stay home and help raise my kids.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I was I have eight kids and so, you know, being able to be home with them be at their games, all that kind of stuff.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I know a lot of these small businesses are doing it so they can raise families.

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[SPEAKER_00]: you know because you know one partner may be working while the other partner is trying to raise the family.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So those things come to your mind a little more and so you do start intentionally looking and I know the rhyme's price makes a difference but yeah and there well there was like a really good local restaurant in Raymore Missouri and I think it was called yeah it was called the pit I think

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, but it was like a barbecue place they were they had the absolute best

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[SPEAKER_04]: fried pickles.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So me and my wife, we actually went and toured some other places.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Just to find who has the best fried pickles around?

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[SPEAKER_04]: And it was kind of fun.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh yeah, that was fun.

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[SPEAKER_04]: And so every, if it was on the menu, no matter how much money we had, we would just make sure and buy fried pickles.

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[SPEAKER_04]: They were the absolute best because they had like a ranch seasoning that they, that would bread it in a ranch.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Now you're making that one great not

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[SPEAKER_04]: And if only a lot more people knew about that, and so that actually motivates me of why I love serving local businesses for my business, too, is like, there are these secret things, and influencers, too.

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[SPEAKER_04]: There's a lot of good Kansas City food influencers, I've seen a lot of food once, because I don't know how you do it on anything else.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But they're really good.

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[SPEAKER_04]: We're seeing them on TikTok and we're like, hey, let's go and try this place like, and we go and try it because it's it's local and we heard that it's good.

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[SPEAKER_04]: So let's go.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Why not?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's exactly why I put it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I took what I'd already built and pivoted.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I said, I've got the audience now.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I want to make sure these businesses are not closing their doors because of the power behind it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I knew that when that door closes, that woman or that person may have to go to work.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I didn't want to go to work and our kids may have all these different revenue things and that's working.

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[SPEAKER_04]: That's where collaboration comes back is because we need that collaboration of helping each other.

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[SPEAKER_04]: They might have been trying to do it alone too much.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, and business is a very good about giving advice like helping each other, you know, and we like you said we rise together.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So that's what's so important about it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so through all those pivot changes, you know, I was starting to get burnt out, but I wasn't asking for the help that I needed.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so that's when I finally know Monique came in and helped, and then I had some other business, you know, and with business with wisdom came in and helped me with my systems.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Man, Monique, you too are amazing and if you get this far to this episode and you heard me say that to you, then let me know.

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[SPEAKER_04]: I don't know, I'm curious, but you're amazing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but it is this asking for that help and knowing it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then looking at what you already have, you know, because like I was like, okay, I was getting frustrated for the wrong reasons when I was trying to keep Gabriel being busy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I could have had him busy doing what we were already doing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So I was making it harder than it needed to be made.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I was like, okay, Gabriel needs to do these things today.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like he needs to, you know, I'm going to keep him busy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So folding towels are doing, which he also does.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, my chores and stuff, but then I'm like, okay, now, Gabriel, we're sitting in the office for this long.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I got to get this much work done and then we'll go to the park or we'll do whatever.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Or go like to watch the car.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He loves to watch the car.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, car washes big.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Nice.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But I didn't realize he could go with you, Kathy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like why don't you let him be the one that's the connector?

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I thought, well, okay, let's try it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're wanting the businesses they want, local love shown to them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, you're already out there doing brand deals and in,

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[SPEAKER_00]: making sure they're coming across your line, putting businesses out showing them doesn't, you know, like in a different way.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I guess I hate using the word influencer.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I guess that's what it is.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it is what it is.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But anyhow, community connector, that's it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The community connector.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But using my audience for that, but I mean, he likes to give too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm saying?

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[SPEAKER_00]: He likes to give too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So when we go, he likes to try their food.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, he likes to, you know, he's better at the ice cream and things like that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you know, yeah, you know that one.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So, but anyhow, so one of the first ones we did was girly pop.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And you know, it was the girly pop.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Dirty sodas.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I thought, let's just try it out.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Let's say 30 sodas as an espresso, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: No, dirty soda is like no no dirty soda is like a doctor pepper for instance and you feel like cream in it Oh, yeah, and then it's all and especially as I just currently pop case See you've got to look up there there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So cute.

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[SPEAKER_00]: She was a cute straws in there with all the candy on the top Okay, but wasn't heaven when we went he got to watch her mix it up, but they put all the you know whipped

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[SPEAKER_00]: cream on the top and like so it's like a very fruit-fru-stada coffee.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's a fruit-fru-stada drink or you know they do they use different.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's Dr. Pepper Locked.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, like exactly.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, but they're anyway.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So we went in and so she made up all the things and he got to watch and he had the little tray and he got to carry it and she was giving to us along.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was a spa.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So he walked into a spot and they were all surprised like this is white ringing and he's handing out so does to everybody and just blessing them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it was it just kind of took off.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So he goes into unbusiness.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That business pays it forward to another one that they think is making a good life changing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, being a like-give-or-be-life change, that's where it glimpsed together that, you know, if you think that business is being a life-changer, you know, we're going to pay it forward to them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then that company usually wants to be to the next one and then on.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And then everybody, the community that's to go in and like say, you know, oh, I've been there.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I love this place.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's just a different way of showing two businesses pretty much at the same time that are making real change right here in Kansas City.

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[SPEAKER_00]: The same thing as,

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you like Raymore.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Raymore, Raymore the city.

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[SPEAKER_04]: They're very good at this.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like the Raymore chamber for like they had a thing called poppin in and they would pop in with popcorn.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh.

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[SPEAKER_04]: But guess where they got the popcorn from?

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[SPEAKER_04]: one of the local pop processes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, so Gabriel goes and what I didn't expect though was he literally every time now he stopped somewhere like he got in the car it was like a couple maybe a week and a half later.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And he started signing, which he doesn't sign a whole lot.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, so when he signs, it's a big thing.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because his hands are closed.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so he started signing ice cream.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was like, what?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so, well, he signed an ice cream.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's go get some ice cream.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He just got some ice cream.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And as soon as I got the ice cream, he turned and smiled at me.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's a 100% influencer.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I would use the influencer with him.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe I'm not an influencer.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But he is.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, he has in down.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like anytime we go to do some of we walk in, he'll pick up something smile.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm like, oh my goodness.

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[SPEAKER_00]: This is too much.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But he loves it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He absolutely loves being involved.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And what does that do during the day?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, first of all, gives me stuff to help keep him busy.

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[SPEAKER_00]: and the second thing is that it makes him be able to do something and another thing that we have found like he loves to hang up clothes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I start thinking, you know, he's drives me crazy because he hangs on my clothes up in the wrong spot, but that's okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But he's trying.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He's trying.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, I mean, it's okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: We've learned, I've taught him now.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He's like very old people.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, now he's very organized, but at first he was just throwing it up and I'm like, oh my gosh.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But what I didn't realize was how many nonprofits need people to hang up clothes.

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[SPEAKER_00]: a lot.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Okay, there you go.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So we do that too.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So what do we do?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Now I get a shout out that nonprofit.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So what they need.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So like for instance, Starfish Project, for instance, you know, right now they're like having an issue finding a building.

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[SPEAKER_00]: or they're not going to be able to be in business though, you know, of course, if you know business, place that they can come to make sure you shout up and get to me, so I can hit it to him right away.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But Gabriel went in and started hanging up clothes because they need to get all these clothes out, because even if they find, when they were going to be playing that, when they find another building to move into,

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[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to have to move all that stuff so they're trying to like kind of get it out.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So that's kind of how that started, but I'm able to look at, you know, what other, you know, nonprofit and what can Gabriel do he moves things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: He likes to put things away, likes to roll up stuff.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So likes to wash cars or yeah, like wash cars, like, you know, so all those kinds of things.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it keeps him busy and feeling like he's being.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So that just let me know that you know what everybody wants to be part of the community.

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[SPEAKER_00]: They want to do something that's just finding what.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And so, you know, if you know, like I'm always telling people, if you're a small business and you want that coverage, let us know.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Let Gabriel come give your stuff to another, you can nominate another person.

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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're a person who loves a certain small business, I mean, write in the comments below here if you're on YouTube, shout out a small business, and we will put it on the list.

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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, because I mean, it's important to let these businesses know you love them, because they sometimes are like me feeling stuck in the middle.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I should we keep this business open or not.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And they just need to know you, the community love them, that you want them to stay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I mean, we go in and we complain, right?

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[SPEAKER_00]: Now I hammer her when cooked enough, or my fork you forgot my fork.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I needed more sugar in that, or whatever it is we complain.

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[SPEAKER_00]: But how many times do we tell them what they did good?

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, you know, I loved how you destructive criticism came and greeted me and you helped me find the perfect size dress and you suggested this jewelry and it made my Prom the best prom ever did you go back and tell them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Yeah, what I mean, like they do well.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Like let them know because then they do more of that.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I tell you, you remember the one critique, the one insult, the one more than you ever do.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, it is, it's true.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So this is how we can do it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's paying it for it.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So Gabriel Gives, that's what it is, you know, for be life changers.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_00]: That's the way you can give.

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[SPEAKER_04]: and that is on which channel do you show that on?

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[SPEAKER_00]: I show it on all of them.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's on catacose events is on knowledge networking, both of those, but yeah, but it all comes across catacose events on Instagram, Facebook, TikTok, or starting to do more TikTok now.

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[SPEAKER_04]: Nice.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay.

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[SPEAKER_04]: That sounds like good TikTok material, so.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And of course, be life changers right here that we're a short name out to.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's get him busy this summer, showing local love to each other, and you guys get to do the voting.

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[SPEAKER_00]: So you get a vote for who you want to be, and the next business.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Showcase scenes, so.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Shout it out so we could put it in a big bowl and he'll choose which one we give them to.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And that is what I wanted to come on today.

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[SPEAKER_00]: It's first of all to say, J.T.

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[SPEAKER_00]: visuals, I couldn't do it without you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you.

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[SPEAKER_00]: You, I'm a community, my audience, my fans.

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[SPEAKER_00]: I love you so very much.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for being part of the cause.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Thanks for making other small businesses feel lifted up because that's what it's all about.

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[SPEAKER_00]: And until the next episode.

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[SPEAKER_00]: Keep on keeping on.