Marriage Q&A With Pastor Sean & Diane - Relationship Goals

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Welcome to another inspirational
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Good morning and welcome to Real
Life Church.

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Good, get on your feet whether
you're with us here at can

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Chucky true or you are joining
us online.

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We are so pumped, just to
worship.

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God big with you today.
I can't count the times.

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I've called your name, some
bulking life and you showed up

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patch me up like you do every
time I get I forgiven you keep

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coming around.
Ain't no way you ever let me

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down.
Good God almighty.

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I'm no matter what keep raising
your name at the top of my love?

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Tell me.
Is he good?

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He's good to me.
Easy, guys.

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Got good God Almighty, you see?
Say your love goes on forever

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that you ever seen ever stops.
So why would I, I know you're

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gonna be there every day.
So hold on, Earth.

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Good God almighty.
The top of my love, tell me.

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Is he go?
He's gonna show me what he got.

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Good God.
All my crazy little more degrees

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immunity time reason when the
Sun goes down.

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Love them in the morning.
Love lemonade lover when the Sun

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goes down.
Good God almighty.

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Jesus.
Jesus.

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Jesus, when the Sun goes down,
Jesus in the morning, Jesus, in

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the name of Jesus, when the Sun
goes down.

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Amen.
Give him some praise.

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He's good this morning and we
keep singing and celebrating our

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God.
Who provides Honey in the Rock

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water in the stone on the
ground.

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No matter where I go, I don't
need to worry now.

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Everything.
I need.

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You've got this honey.
Brave thirsty for the living

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world.
Holy you can satisfy sweetness

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at The Mercy Seat.
Now I taste it.

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It's not hard to see.
Only you can satisfy there's

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Honey in the Rock.
Is Honey in the Rock.

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There's honey in the Honey in
the Rock freedom.

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Water in the stone made on the
ground, no matter where I go,

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and I don't need to worry.
Sweetie.

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So tries to you, Jesus.
You won't realize.

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Well, welcome to the house.
Today is something very special.

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We were doing a child dedication
Sunday and you guys can be see

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it just for a moment here.
And if we get an opportunity to

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really dedicate these families,
these parents and his children

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back to God, our children are a
Heritage from the Lord.

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God has given us our kids, and
one of the greatest things that

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God can do in life is if we can
Stewart our children.

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And so today we get to blessing
of really honor these families

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Families.
Get Behind these families, love

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on these families.
In the finals of the Bible were

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a hand.
It gives back, same will to God.

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It's a gift from God.
But also find this as more than

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just a parent and a child, it's
a whole family to Jesus.

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And so you find some Joshua and
it's so powerful is found in

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Joshua 24.
It says this, it says, now, fear

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the lord and serve him with all
faithfulness, you fear, God,

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serve god with everything in
your being.

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You put Jesus at the center of
your family.

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Family says, throw away the
gods, your ancestors, worshiped

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beyond the Euphrates, river and
images, your throw away, all

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the, all the gods of the Earth,
all the gods will around all

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things we worship.
Besides Jesus.

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He says in serve the Lord sort
of the one true God.

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So the God above all gods, the
name of all maze.

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Put Jesus at the center of your
family and Let Jesus changed the

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culture of your heart and your
in transforming our children.

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But he says this in verse 15,
both serve.

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The Lord seems undesirable to
you than what help me out then.

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Then choose choose for yourself
this day.

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Whom you will serve whether the
gods, our ancestors served on

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the afraid, he's or the gods of
the amorites, in whose lands,

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you are living your going to
serve the God of this culture,

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the gods around you, the gods of
all the things are going to

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serve the one true Living God.
But Joshua says this.

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But as for me and my household,
we will serve the Lord.

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Amen.
And today these families coming

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up, but they have chosen.
Now they've made the decision

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that Rupert Jesus, right.
The Order of our relationships.

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We want these to be God's
children.

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I'm going to raise my family,
but these are God's and our

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goals that he will change for
Jesus.

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Their hearts be transformed by
Jesus.

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They know Jesus and that we
model for them was to be, but

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it's we follow Jesus and our
lives.

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That's our calling as a dad.
And a mom has families and us as

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a church.
Amen.

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So they, they have made that
decision and this is the

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response of the people that Josh
was talking to Justin.

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The people answered far, be it
from us to forsake the Lord, to

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serve other gods.
I love this verse 17.

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It was the Lord It was a lord,
Our God himself who brought us

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and our parents out of Egypt, to
the land of slavery and

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performed.
The Great Signs of her eyes.

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He protected us their entire
journey and among all the

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nations there.
What you traveled?

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And the Lord drove out before us
all the nations, including the

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amorites, who lived in the
lands.

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And we too will serve the Lord
because he is our God, I love

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that.
It was the Lord.

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And that's a story.
Get here of these families, it

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was the Lord that rescued These
parents it was a Lord that

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protected their families as Lord
that brought them to this

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moment.
There's a Lord that change them

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and transform them as the Lord
that brought people into their

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path, to do this very moment
that they could say, you know

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what, Jesus is the center of our
family.

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So this is something that we
have to go through the motion

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on.
This is something we believe

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deeply in and you get a chance
to hear their stories and what

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God has done their family and
this really testimony.

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That it was the Lord, some have
Holly come up and she's going to

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share their stories and I want
you guys just to give praise to

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God for they're doing as I come
up here on the stage.

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Age love, never behind him and
love him.

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Amen.
Love it.

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Come on.
Give it up.

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Here we go.
All right.

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First up, we have the Wilson
family.

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He want to make your way up to
the stage, here they come.

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All right.
Well, they are dedicating lame,

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Jagger Wilson.
He was born, July 3rd 2022.

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These are his parents Gavin, and
Mary Wilson, when asked what

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specifically LED you to dedicate
your child?

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I said, Gavin married.
Grew up on believing in God but

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not dedicated to a church and
they want Lane to love and live

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with God Lane has their first
child and they want him to know

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God.
We ask what was significant

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about Lanes.
Named Lanes.

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Name came from Lane Frost, the
bull rider Jagger was a unique

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name.
Both Mary and Gavin.

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Loved from the early stages of
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What is something unique about
lane lane?

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Has the biggest smile?
He is so happy all of the time,

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his little giggles are so
infectious.

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We also asked what are a few
things that we can be praying

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specifically for you and your
child, they asked for prayers

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for health, for happiness, and
for financial wisdom as laying

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gross.
Let's give it up for the lane

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one more time.
All right.

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Next, we have the Burt family
because want to make your way up

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to the stage.
All right they are dedicating

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Jameson and jayven first.
We've got Jameson Keith Bert, it

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was born, January 19th, 2017.
These are his parents John and

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Jenni Burt when asked
specifically what led them to

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dedicate their boys.
I said we want to introduce

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Jesus and our children's life at
a young age so that they might

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grow a great Bond.
With our Lord and savior

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something significant about
James Jameson's name.

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They said we just liked it.
Jonathan good.

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I love that.
Pick one out of the baby book

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but what something unique about
Jameson, he's a bit corny and

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has a little bit of a rough side
but he's really passionate about

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God and Jesus then we have
Javen, Michael Birch, born

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September 26, 2019.
Same for Jason's name.

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They just loved the name.
Decided to choose that one but

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something unique about him is
that he is our Wild Child.

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Old ball of energy and we would
love to convert his energy into

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a love for our Lord and Savior.
Jesus Christ, a few specific

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things.
We can be praying for them and

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their boys as for health, for
safety and a passion for the

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Lord, as they grow.
Let's give it up for the Burt

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family.
I love it.

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Next, we have the hosted family.
Here they come.

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All right.
Today, they're dedicating,

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Connor read ho sik, Haley,
Lucille.

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Ho stick and Lila Jane.
Oh sick.

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First up, we've got Connor.
He was born, June 9th, 2013.

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These are his parents, Eddie and
Mindy hosting.

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What specifically LED them to
dedicate their kiddos today?

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Because we've been a part of
real life for almost a year.

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Now, in our lives have never
been better.

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We want our kids to see how
important their faith is how

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amazing their God is.
And we want them to see how much

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they are loved by our church
family as well, something

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significant about Connors named
Conor means lover of wolves /

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Hunter and read means
red-haired.

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That's a strong.
That's a strong name.

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Something unique about Connor.
Connor is a very motional and

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apathetic Kiddo.
He is quick to act when it comes

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to helping then we have Hayley
Lucille, ho sik.

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She was born April 14th 2014.
Something significant about

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Haley's name.
It means Meadow and her middle

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name.
Lucille is a combination of her

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great grandma's name.
Something unique about Hayley,

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Hayley is a very determined
little lady and she is the one

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to look out for the kids who are
Outsiders and make sure that

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they feel like they are accepted
and included.

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Lastly we've got Lila Jane ho
sik.

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She was born November 14th, 2017
Lila's something significant

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about the named Lila Lila means
night and Jane means, god is

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gracious, it's also her deceased
great-grandma's middle name.

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Something unique about Leila
Leila is such a wild Spirit.

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She loves to dance to the beat
of Her Own Drum.

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She also already knows she loves
her God.

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She's always the first to
volunteer to pray.

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A few specific things.
They asked.

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We prayed for over them and
their kiddos.

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They want them to have a
spiritual hunger, a sense of an

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intimate belonging and for their
deepest struggles, to be

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redeemed.
They also want them just to have

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a compassionate world view as
they grow.

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Let's give it up for all of
these families that shows to

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dedicate their kid us today.
This is a very significant

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moment and I know you guys have
gone through so much, the got

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just done so much in your life
to get here, What the Lord Has

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Done, Right?
And it's amazing to see the

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story of the Gods riding in each
of you.

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And today we need to take a
special time of prayer that

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we're just not behind you, but
for you and this is your family

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as well.
And so, what we'll do is invite

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you guys to stains the church,
get on your feet.

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We are going to Basically
worship a song over them, but

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we're gonna pray over him and
this is a little different.

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Some people kind of feel weird
about it but this is our time as

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a church to say we're behind you
and we sing the song called the

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blessing and it's really about
praying something special,

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someone else's life and the song
of so applicable to the

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generations that are in front of
us, it's all in do as a church

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is for you guys to actively
engage in this song.

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To see there's stories, maybe
you don't know them.

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But if you know them, you know,
some of the struggles of stories

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and they've taken ground from
Satan to get to this point and

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then Their struggles that people
have, you know, that exist.

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And so too for us, the church is
to put our hands up and look at

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these people.
And just say, God used them play

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breasting on them.
And this is just a moment for

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you guys to participate in this.
And so I would encourage you not

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to just sit back but to really
pray and imagine what God can do

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in this family and this is
significant for the future of

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their kids.
This change the course of the

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generations.
And so Paul says you raise a

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child in the way he should go,
his partner was, he gets older

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ones apart from it, and this is
a good moment.

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For them to say no as for no
house or fall in the Lord.

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And so let's get behind that.
Let's love on them.

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To give them more time.
Is dying starts with song off.

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Come on.
So we sing the song, The

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Blessing during our child
dedication moments because these

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words come right out of a
passage in numbers when God was

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setting up the temple and how
they worshipped and he promised

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the priest in the temple.
That if you pray, these words

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over the people, every time they
leave the worship, I will be

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with them.
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as a church is that not only we
want, you know, these parents

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dedicated.
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dedicated to helping these
little ones grow up and God help

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these families do all that we
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But then also, Also we want the
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promises to say that if I am
going to be having these words

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over these people than that
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life.
So I'd like to invite you, you

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can lift up your hands to pray
over them and just take this

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moment of really when you're
saying these words of this song

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Today, pray this as a prayer
over these families today so I'd

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like to invite you guys to sing.
Lord bless you and keep you make

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his face shine upon you and be
gracious to you.

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The Lord turn his face toward
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The Lord make his face shine
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The Lord turn his face toward
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And I'll men just means that we
agree. and I,

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Come on.
And how exciting?

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Well, the Bible says, unless the
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laborers, labor in vain.
So we're praying, may God is in

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this guy's for you and just
trusting the Lord.

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Let me take you all the steps
away in our church behind you.

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Amen, love you guys.
So give it up one more time for

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our families today.
Come on.

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Cool man, I don't know if it
gets much better than that just

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to come together and just pray
over these awesome, young

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families and just see their
boldness of faith and just

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knowing that story for these
awesome kids on stage is

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starting now.
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that, the challenge that we have
to say that we're going to stand

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behind them and we are going to
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Faith and so I don't know, I
think someone needs to get

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excited for what God's going to
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Say let's give a big for God
today man, awesome.

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Guys, I am honored.
We at real-life Shore just

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honored that you're here today.
I want to take a quick moment to

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recognize a group of people also
here with us today that are

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called real life Church online
and I would just love.

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We could just take a quick
second for them to hear you and

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welcome this morning.
Let's give it up for Real Life,

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Church online and welcome them.
Love having you guys here with

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us.
Hey everyone, here at Katie.

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So puncture here, we look around
we, you find someone.

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Maybe someone you don't even
know and greet, someone make the

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people in your Section feel.
Welcome, make a connection and

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then have a seat.
Awesome while they're making

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that connection.
I want to take a moment and

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welcome any and everyone who's
brand-new Surreal Life church

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this morning.
I want to say welcome home.

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We believe you're here on
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And we are just honored to have
you as our special guest this

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week.
And I'd love to give you some

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action steps to take right now.
One of the things you could do

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is get your phone out, you could
text RL new to 97,000.

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There's also a QR code on the
seat back in front of you.

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Open up your Camera, app, scan
that.

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And you can take care of that as
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And fill out our digital
communication card, and that's

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just a chance for you to find
out some answers.

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You might have about real-life
church or some questions.

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I should say answers to
questions, would be a better way

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of saying that about real life
church and we just want to just

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get to know.
You hear your story and find

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out.
How can we be praying for you

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this week?
Maybe this isn't your first

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Sunday, but maybe you've never
taken a moment to visit our new

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here Booth.
I want to invite you to go ahead

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and do that this morning.
If you haven't, we would love to

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hear your story face-to-face.
Put a name to a face and we do

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have a small gift for you just
as our way of again of saying.

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Thank you so much for spending
part of your weekend with us at

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Real Life Church.
Well guys, the reason that we

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even exist, the reason that all
this gets set up and tore down

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every week.
The reason that we put on the

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event, every Sunday is simple.
Souls matter to God.

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That's 100% what this is all
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And we have a mission.
Shin that basically sums out of

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we exist here at real life to
see people far from God,

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discover their real life and
purpose in Jesus.

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And that's what it's all about.
That's what makes all of the

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work.
The effort, the time worth it.

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It's not just about an empty
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It's about the soul that's
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The soul that sits in every one
of these chairs, God is for you

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today.
And I just want to take a

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moment.
Moment and say thanks and give a

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shout out to everybody, that's
just been inviting out people

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over these last several weeks,
man.

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God is honoring that and souls
are being changed.

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Lives are being changed right
here because of you and your

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faithfulness.
So let's just keep moving that

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mission forward each and every
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Well, guys, we've been on this
awesome series.

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That's awesome.
Kick these last several weeks

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about relationships, really,
just diving into that idea that

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relationships are.
Much deeper than the snapshot we

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post on social media, right?
It's so much deeper than that.

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A relationship that's built on
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When the Lord is in it, that's
the relationship that's going to

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last.
And so, what I want to do today

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is I want to mix things up a
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I want to invite Pastor Sean,
and Diane to come up to the

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stage for a special Q&A session.
And let's just say, we're going

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to put the real and real life
this morning.

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He's that sound good to you.
So yeah you guys were challenged

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to put in some questions.
We're going to dive in.

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We're going to put them on the
hot seat today and we're going

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to find out just some real
practical tips from from a

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couple who's been in the game
for a while, they've got some

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wisdom to share with us today.
So will you welcome Pastor, Sean

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and Diane, as we get into this
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Come on.
Make them feel welcome.

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You guys nervous?
I'm not nervous at all, man, we

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just appreciate your guys as
heart for being on the hot seat

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today.
I could imagine that it could be

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a little bit uncomfortable a
little bit nerve-racking.

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Yeah, way to go, man.
Thanks Lane.

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I can imagine, you know,
spilling the tea as the kids say

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about your long relationship
could be a little bit

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nerve-wracking.
Maybe, you know, I know that

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some questions came in this week
and man, You probably know more

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than anybody else when you open
up the floor to just general

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questions at you never know what
you're going to get, right?

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So truth, I love it.
So I'm excited to dive in but

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before we do that just a little
bit, if you don't know a little

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bit about their story.
So Sean and Diane kind of, kind

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of the typical Highschool
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they were friends, kind of ran
in the same friend group back in

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Raytown, not Rea more Raytown.
So the other side of the tracks,

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keep it real.
You want to represent anybody or

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Shout out.
I'm sorry.

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No hahaha.
Shout-out retail holler.

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Hi, there you go.
That's awesome.

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They, they've got three little
ones at home, just three bundles

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of Joy.
Just absolute blessings.

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And what's really cool before
that, they were called early on,

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in their marriage to Foster you
guys were called to Foster,

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some, some young adults and they
actually have an adopted 28 year

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old granddaughter.
So you guys don't look a day

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over, 30 daughter.
But close, what's that daughter?

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What did I say?
Jen daughter, great.

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Well, she's Grand.
She's really she's real swell.

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She's a neat gal and that was my
grandpa's a gun.

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We'll get into that in a minute.
Weird goddaughter.

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My apologies, but it's really
cool and really, and I think you

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guys probably have you been here
with us any length of time, know

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they have a heart for people.
They have a heart to not only

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launch this church, reach the
community, just new churches,

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reach new people, right?
They had a heart just to settle

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here and Ray Moore.
And and just bless this

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community and what's really cool
is beyond that is they have a

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heart for marriages and
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And these guys have just
counseled so many people, their

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fingerprints are on so many.
Just general relationship

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stories in this room and the
next Gathering and Beyond

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they've touched.
So many people with just their

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wisdom, they've lived it.
That's what's really cool.

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We're going to find out today,
you know, they've been in the

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trenches so they've got a that
What about healthy marriages?

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So like I said before we've been
building up some questions here

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and my first question.
Are you guys ready?

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I don't know.
Let's do it.

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Oh I promise I promise we're
going to we're going to take it

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easy on your gonna get real but
it's not going to be crazy.

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All right, this first questions
to the both of you, all right,

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so this is an all-skate for you
guys and it says this, I like my

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Sean isms.
They're all skate to learn from

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watching, you, Dad.
All right, this was shot at

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Diana.
Says you guys have been married?

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For 15 years, I want you to go
all the way back before.

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You said I do back when you were
dating what were some keys that

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you learned or had in place the
set your marriage up for that

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happily ever after success that
made a big difference for

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lasting marriage today We
remember that time, huh?

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Yeah, distant memory.
No, I heard yes, this is Sean.

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Drew clearly the comic relief of
today.

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Not me, it's okay but I can say
for me I think there's a few

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things like one is that we got
to be friends first and I know

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not everybody has that ability
or the timing of the

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relationship but that was really
important for us.

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Once you like add the romance
into it, like we were already

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friends.
We already knew each other, we

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already knew how to communicate
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connected.
Friends, will talk more about

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communication later, but the
second one I think is really

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key.
Is that at that time in our life

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when we did, like start dating
we were, you know, later in the

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college, not in high school, but
we were both pursuing God on our

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own.
We both had felt like we were

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called to do something big for
God and it wasn't like, oh, let

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me wait around to see what Shawn
thinks or what Sean's going to

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do or, you know, I wasn't
building my future with God on

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him.
I was building my future with

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God on God, and whatever God
called me to do.

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There's actually a really funny
story when Sean was going to

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propose to me and I didn't know
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I had accepted a job in Chicago.
We were long distance for a long

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time and I was like cool piece.
You know where I'll be like if

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you need to catch up or
whatever, but I was just like

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carrying on with what God was
calling me to do until that

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time, when like our lives merged
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So yeah, it's just kind of funny
and the Lord had different

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plans.
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And then ultimately, what
brought us together is realizing

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that will to be on Mission
together?

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Like I could look at Sean and
his passion for God and look to

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say, like I know that God can do
more through us together than he

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00:37:35,900 --> 00:37:39,900
can do with a.
And so that underlying Unity

453
00:37:39,900 --> 00:37:44,600
made it so that we could come
together and serve God so way

454
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:50,200
back when dating?
Yeah, talking about Keys things

455
00:37:50,200 --> 00:37:52,700
that we learned.
And I would say, first of all,

456
00:37:52,700 --> 00:37:56,500
we weren't perfect, we don't be
inherently Keys.

457
00:37:57,300 --> 00:37:59,600
Yeah, we learned, right?
So some things, we learned some

458
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:01,400
things, we've kind of had going
for us.

459
00:38:02,100 --> 00:38:05,700
One things that worked out.
We dated long distance for man,

460
00:38:05,700 --> 00:38:09,100
three and a half years.
It's pretty much yeah, longer

461
00:38:09,100 --> 00:38:12,000
three and a half years and so it
kept snotlout trouble, come on

462
00:38:12,000 --> 00:38:15,500
somebody, that's, that's the
blessing of being 60 miles away,

463
00:38:15,500 --> 00:38:17,600
right?
And this back, when you had a

464
00:38:17,800 --> 00:38:19,800
cell phone, we had to be in the
right spot in the dorm, you

465
00:38:19,808 --> 00:38:22,900
know, to even getting signal as
a press against the back door

466
00:38:22,900 --> 00:38:26,200
for four years, you know.
But the reality is, there's four

467
00:38:26,200 --> 00:38:28,000
things are really a blessing for
us.

468
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,900
One is you have to know each
other outside of physically,

469
00:38:31,300 --> 00:38:32,900
which I think a lot of
relationships kind of gets

470
00:38:32,900 --> 00:38:34,400
stale.
Like they just get stuck right

471
00:38:34,400 --> 00:38:36,300
there.
They start doing stuff outside

472
00:38:36,300 --> 00:38:38,300
of where Louis.
It's like fire, you know, it's

473
00:38:38,300 --> 00:38:40,400
like it's awesome when it's in
its right place.

474
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:42,000
But super destructive when it's
not.

475
00:38:42,300 --> 00:38:43,600
And what happens?
You just you get to know

476
00:38:43,607 --> 00:38:46,300
somebody's body but you don't
get to know anything really else

477
00:38:46,600 --> 00:38:48,900
and so you don't really get to
go deeper spiritually or

478
00:38:48,900 --> 00:38:51,100
character, or their call and
passion.

479
00:38:51,100 --> 00:38:53,800
So we kind of had the blessing.
He had to spend a lot of time.

480
00:38:53,900 --> 00:38:56,300
Dino is jokes around.
She goes, if we were closer and

481
00:38:56,500 --> 00:38:58,800
you know a new you little more
at home, I probably would never

482
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:03,000
married you haha.
So that was those big I think

483
00:39:03,000 --> 00:39:06,000
for us like seeing her Pursuit
Of God, I mean I think you want

484
00:39:06,000 --> 00:39:08,800
to marry somebody That's
passionate about God, they're

485
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:13,300
pursuing God on their own and in
just as much, if not more than

486
00:39:13,300 --> 00:39:17,100
you, you're just chasing that.
And for me like I realized, I

487
00:39:17,100 --> 00:39:18,800
ain't like she was real serious
about following God.

488
00:39:18,800 --> 00:39:21,100
A lot of people just talk about
it and they show up on Sundays

489
00:39:21,100 --> 00:39:23,600
and stuff, but they're really
not fighting for it, you know,

490
00:39:23,800 --> 00:39:27,300
and I noticed in college, she
went off and she didn't like a

491
00:39:27,300 --> 00:39:30,700
Nursing degree and three years
taking extra classes.

492
00:39:30,700 --> 00:39:34,600
And it was pretty rigorous kind
of study and she'd work as a CNA

493
00:39:35,400 --> 00:39:39,700
overnights and is working out.
Only hours a week or more and so

494
00:39:39,700 --> 00:39:42,200
overnight should work in the
Gulf of Saturday or Sunday more

495
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:45,100
like 6 a.m. it's you drive the
church and she sleep in the

496
00:39:45,100 --> 00:39:48,600
parking lot so that she could
get up and serve kids in a lot

497
00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:52,100
of program and a elementary-aged
program and then go to church

498
00:39:52,100 --> 00:39:53,700
and do it every single Sunday
for years.

499
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:57,400
And so for me like that was
like, ding ding, ding, right?

500
00:39:57,400 --> 00:39:59,300
Like she wants something from
God.

501
00:39:59,300 --> 00:40:01,300
She wants to pursue God.
And so that was really big for

502
00:40:01,300 --> 00:40:03,400
me.
I just kind of ring the bell,

503
00:40:03,400 --> 00:40:05,900
right?
And I think to is just, yeah,

504
00:40:05,900 --> 00:40:08,700
that's the question.
Am I marrying somebody because

505
00:40:08,900 --> 00:40:13,200
it helps me pursue the things of
God, more Ores or what is it,

506
00:40:13,200 --> 00:40:14,700
right?
Because ultimately ridges built

507
00:40:14,700 --> 00:40:17,000
around, like, we're Partners
together for things of Christ

508
00:40:17,200 --> 00:40:19,000
and so for me that was the
foundation, a lot of people

509
00:40:19,000 --> 00:40:22,100
didn't have that or think that
direction but for us, that was

510
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:25,200
really the key to laid out.
So a lot of people like asked,

511
00:40:25,200 --> 00:40:28,400
if he should you live together
for he married, you know, save

512
00:40:28,400 --> 00:40:31,400
some money, you know, you know,
you can fit, you know, test

513
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:34,200
drive the car, right?
You hear that all the time,

514
00:40:34,200 --> 00:40:36,500
right?
And I just feel like that's just

515
00:40:36,500 --> 00:40:38,400
the Direction that God would
have for you.

516
00:40:39,000 --> 00:40:40,200
I think that's where you want to
go at all.

517
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:42,200
Thank you and honor God.
And then, as God brings you

518
00:40:42,207 --> 00:40:44,800
together, and then he wants to
get married, and then you can

519
00:40:45,000 --> 00:40:46,100
learn all you want about Sonny's
Body.

520
00:40:46,100 --> 00:40:47,700
Come on somebody.
Amen.

521
00:40:48,900 --> 00:40:50,500
There's ones not wrong one
person.

522
00:40:50,700 --> 00:40:54,800
There's one guy excited today.
That's awesome.

523
00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:56,800
There's so many good takeaways
from that.

524
00:40:56,800 --> 00:40:59,100
And I neglected to mention
earlier, you know, like this

525
00:40:59,100 --> 00:41:00,900
this whole series and especially
today.

526
00:41:00,900 --> 00:41:03,900
I mean, if you're not married,
if you're not in a relationship

527
00:41:03,900 --> 00:41:06,800
man, take some notes.
Today, there is so much.

528
00:41:06,900 --> 00:41:09,400
Each gold and everything you
guys said and one of the

529
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:12,000
takeaways that I got from that
that I really enjoyed is like,

530
00:41:12,000 --> 00:41:15,000
so many people I think think of
relationships is 50/50, but you

531
00:41:15,000 --> 00:41:17,700
guys really lined it up it's
really a hundred, a hundred, you

532
00:41:17,700 --> 00:41:20,700
know, I love how you really do
been to like, you know, this is

533
00:41:20,700 --> 00:41:24,300
my faith and I'm going this way.
I'm pursuing God whether he does

534
00:41:24,300 --> 00:41:25,600
or not.
I think it's also cool.

535
00:41:25,600 --> 00:41:29,200
How God honored that and brought
you both together so huge,

536
00:41:29,200 --> 00:41:31,300
takeaway me and I hope you guys
are taking some notes today.

537
00:41:31,300 --> 00:41:33,000
That's that's epic.
All right.

538
00:41:33,000 --> 00:41:34,300
Well, you ready for another all
skate?

539
00:41:34,300 --> 00:41:36,100
Another.
Both of you before we divvy out

540
00:41:36,100 --> 00:41:38,000
a little bit, I'm ready.
All right, let's do it.

541
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,400
Our this for both of you.
The next question came in goes

542
00:41:40,700 --> 00:41:45,100
it starts off being married is
often challenging especially

543
00:41:45,100 --> 00:41:48,600
when you were a young married
couple and the honeymoon phase

544
00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:53,200
wears off.
What was your maybe doesn't what

545
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,600
was your biggest challenge in
your early years of marriage and

546
00:41:56,600 --> 00:42:00,400
how did you work through it?
She's looking at me.

547
00:42:01,200 --> 00:42:02,000
I'll do it.
I'll do it.

548
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:02,800
I'll do it.
I'll do it.

549
00:42:03,800 --> 00:42:06,300
Yeah.
So man there's a lot of

550
00:42:06,300 --> 00:42:09,300
challenges, right?
I mean honeymoon phase.

551
00:42:09,300 --> 00:42:11,200
I was thinking like we never
left home in Phase.

552
00:42:12,300 --> 00:42:13,000
Look at her face.
Yeah.

553
00:42:13,100 --> 00:42:14,700
That was yeah.
You're right.

554
00:42:14,700 --> 00:42:18,300
Yeah.
That was over so that that

555
00:42:18,300 --> 00:42:21,600
ended.
No I think honestly like you

556
00:42:21,600 --> 00:42:25,700
know we have the typical like
you know, we fight we you know

557
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:27,900
she can't keep her hands off me.
So that's the kind of fighter

558
00:42:27,900 --> 00:42:32,100
off, you know and Y'all know
making stuff up now.

559
00:42:32,100 --> 00:42:35,300
Right?
No, but I do think at the end of

560
00:42:35,308 --> 00:42:37,000
the day, I feel like Back Being
Young married.

561
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,900
Like once you got a honeymoon
phase, you start to realize like

562
00:42:39,900 --> 00:42:43,400
not my problem was myself, that
was the problem.

563
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:46,800
Like I was, I don't know.
It was like bad stuff, but it

564
00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:48,600
wasn't great stuff like it
Plateau.

565
00:42:48,600 --> 00:42:51,000
Like the relationship plateaus
on me, right?

566
00:42:51,000 --> 00:42:52,100
And maybe she says, save
ourself.

567
00:42:52,100 --> 00:42:55,000
But like I did, you get to
certain depth in like, you're

568
00:42:55,000 --> 00:42:56,500
okay with that.
Like, you didn't know any

569
00:42:56,500 --> 00:42:58,500
different maybe.
And so you start realizing as

570
00:42:58,500 --> 00:43:01,600
problems.
Even as pressure comes right.

571
00:43:01,600 --> 00:43:05,000
As we have foster kids and
things happen, like, wow, I've

572
00:43:05,000 --> 00:43:07,800
got, I've got to be, there's got
to be, there's got to be more of

573
00:43:07,900 --> 00:43:10,500
Jesus in me.
Like, I got to die to myself a

574
00:43:10,508 --> 00:43:13,400
little more like and so patients
and all these things character

575
00:43:13,400 --> 00:43:15,600
inside myself.
And I started realizing as

576
00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:18,500
problems would happened that
Ultima I'm not being the best

577
00:43:18,500 --> 00:43:22,500
solution to the problems, right?
And so, I think there's a lot to

578
00:43:22,500 --> 00:43:26,200
say about that direction of,
really just dined yourself and

579
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,900
just asking, God to work through
you and learning to listen.

580
00:43:29,000 --> 00:43:31,100
Listen, I think was really big.
I don't know if that's a

581
00:43:31,500 --> 00:43:34,500
spiritual gift that most people
are gifted with, you know.

582
00:43:34,500 --> 00:43:36,300
So I think marriage you start
realizing like, hey, I've got a

583
00:43:36,300 --> 00:43:39,600
Shepherd her soul and we're both
very hard workers were both very

584
00:43:39,600 --> 00:43:43,300
independent and I think the word
maybe comes to mind is that for

585
00:43:43,300 --> 00:43:46,700
most guys and people in general
is just stubborn, right?

586
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:49,000
Like I realized like being if
I'm going to go where God calls

587
00:43:49,000 --> 00:43:52,100
you go, I've got to be open to
things of God, more and more

588
00:43:52,100 --> 00:43:54,900
patient, more loving, and I was
thinking about like, Peter

589
00:43:54,900 --> 00:43:57,900
Wright and he goes up to this
really is what Jesus will start

590
00:43:57,900 --> 00:44:00,400
back on that and Jesus says,
hey, I'm going to die.

591
00:44:00,400 --> 00:44:03,300
I'll be crucified and killed and
raised again and Peter's like,

592
00:44:03,300 --> 00:44:06,300
no you're not.
And Jesus tells Peter like get

593
00:44:06,300 --> 00:44:09,400
thee behind me Satan, right.
And Peter's just kind of

594
00:44:09,700 --> 00:44:12,800
stubborn and aloof and doesn't
know what's going on and Jesus

595
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:15,900
does some very special it's just
that later that week he takes up

596
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:19,500
the Inner Circle disciples, you
know, Peter James John up to the

597
00:44:19,500 --> 00:44:22,600
Mount Transfiguration and the
voice of the father.

598
00:44:22,600 --> 00:44:24,200
Like the glory of God has shown
right?

599
00:44:24,200 --> 00:44:26,500
Like there's smoke and they just
crazy and there's they're

600
00:44:26,500 --> 00:44:28,600
hearing the voices.
He Elijah the see, Moses up on

601
00:44:28,600 --> 00:44:30,500
this mountain.
Mountain and they're just

602
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:32,900
afraid, and they're wondering
what's going on?

603
00:44:32,900 --> 00:44:34,400
Of course.
God's voice is like, this, is my

604
00:44:34,400 --> 00:44:37,000
son whom I love and they don't
quite get what's going on in.

605
00:44:37,000 --> 00:44:39,000
Jesus, tells them as they make
their way down the mound.

606
00:44:39,000 --> 00:44:41,400
He says, hey, I'm going to
raised again the third day, the

607
00:44:41,400 --> 00:44:45,000
Bible says you guys are like,
whoa, so that's like the early

608
00:44:45,000 --> 00:44:46,200
years of marriage.
Like what?

609
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:49,000
Right.
And then Jesus is kind of front

610
00:44:49,000 --> 00:44:51,200
of them and they're talking
about something that's so

611
00:44:51,300 --> 00:44:53,100
interesting.
Like, who's gonna be the

612
00:44:53,100 --> 00:44:55,500
greatest in heaven?
That's the question of talking

613
00:44:55,500 --> 00:44:57,100
about.
So it's all the glory god in

614
00:44:57,100 --> 00:44:58,700
their ask themselves.
Well, who's going there because

615
00:44:58,700 --> 00:45:02,000
I saw Moses as all Isaiah.
So I wonder if I'm to be up

616
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:04,000
there next year, you know?
Like I'm over.

617
00:45:04,000 --> 00:45:05,200
I'll be in the center of this
equation.

618
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:08,000
I want to be by all about me,
and Jesus didn't overhear like

619
00:45:08,000 --> 00:45:11,100
physically, but he heard it and
he goes to him and he says we're

620
00:45:11,100 --> 00:45:14,300
just talking about and they're
awfully quiet, right?

621
00:45:14,500 --> 00:45:17,300
And he looked at me said hey if
you want to be first and he'd be

622
00:45:17,300 --> 00:45:19,100
last and if you know me the
grace and the kingdom would be

623
00:45:19,100 --> 00:45:22,500
the greatest survey.
So I think early on that, that's

624
00:45:22,500 --> 00:45:26,200
why I Learned was.
You need to serve 100%. 150%.

625
00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:27,700
Doesn't matter what some Bells
does you doing?

626
00:45:27,700 --> 00:45:29,900
God's calling you doing Serving?
And Ingrosso.

627
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:34,500
Amen, I was it.
That's why I got so, yeah.

628
00:45:34,500 --> 00:45:36,400
I think bouncing off of that
same idea.

629
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:39,900
It is early in your marriage.
It's a period of dying to

630
00:45:39,900 --> 00:45:43,000
yourself, you know, following
what Jesus calls us to do and

631
00:45:43,000 --> 00:45:45,900
saying, like, well, this is how
I did it, and this is how I grew

632
00:45:45,900 --> 00:45:49,300
up, and this is what I think.
And so just there's times of,

633
00:45:49,300 --> 00:45:52,300
like, teasing those things out
of like, well, what are we going

634
00:45:52,300 --> 00:45:54,900
to do in those things?
And it's really easy at the

635
00:45:54,900 --> 00:45:56,700
beginning, like full, I'm an
only child.

636
00:45:56,700 --> 00:45:59,400
So I never had a roommate till I
got married, I guess, College a

637
00:45:59,400 --> 00:46:02,200
little bit, but, you know, it's
just like, how do you live and

638
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:04,000
share space?
And all those practical things,

639
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:07,100
or you have to die to yourself a
little bit to come to that full

640
00:46:08,000 --> 00:46:10,600
acceptance of somebody else's
ways, and things like that.

641
00:46:10,600 --> 00:46:13,900
It hurts learning, you know,
which, which of these am I going

642
00:46:13,900 --> 00:46:16,000
to let go and which ones do I
need to talk about?

643
00:46:16,400 --> 00:46:18,800
But same as Sean.
I think early in our marriage, I

644
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:22,700
really had to take a deep dive
into me and how the problems

645
00:46:22,700 --> 00:46:25,900
that I was causing can be
detrimental to our marriage.

646
00:46:25,900 --> 00:46:28,100
So I've shared with lots of Life
groups that I've LED.

647
00:46:28,600 --> 00:46:31,900
I had Dad pretty deep-seated
struggle with insecurities,

648
00:46:31,900 --> 00:46:33,300
like, throughout my like
college.

649
00:46:33,300 --> 00:46:37,200
And, you know, early marriage
years that was really at a point

650
00:46:37,200 --> 00:46:39,500
that it was debilitating to,
some of the relationships that I

651
00:46:39,500 --> 00:46:42,300
was in, it was preventing me
into entering, into new, you

652
00:46:42,300 --> 00:46:44,900
know, deeper relationships with
other people in my life.

653
00:46:44,900 --> 00:46:48,900
Preventing me from really fully
trusting that God had brought us

654
00:46:48,900 --> 00:46:52,700
together on purpose and that my
job was to better me.

655
00:46:53,000 --> 00:46:56,900
And to not say that, you know, I
needed Sean to do certain things

656
00:46:56,900 --> 00:47:00,000
to fill that need inside of me
and putting Extra pressure on

657
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:02,400
him to say like well if he can
measure up to this and if he can

658
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:05,900
meet this need inside of me, I
really had to die to myself and

659
00:47:05,900 --> 00:47:08,200
say, no.
Only, God can meet that need in

660
00:47:08,200 --> 00:47:11,700
me, and if I'm looking for it in
him, that's not fair.

661
00:47:12,100 --> 00:47:14,700
He's never going to meet, you
know, meet that standard of

662
00:47:14,700 --> 00:47:16,400
Jesus in my life.
And so it was really a

663
00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:20,000
transformational time of that in
the insecurities from within me,

664
00:47:20,900 --> 00:47:24,400
birthed out of me trying to do
it on myself, trying to reach a

665
00:47:24,400 --> 00:47:26,900
certain Perfection standard,
trying to achieve all these

666
00:47:26,900 --> 00:47:28,300
things.
And then when it wasn't going

667
00:47:28,300 --> 00:47:31,500
well, Saying while Shawn needs
to you know feed into me and

668
00:47:31,500 --> 00:47:34,300
helped me and it was this oh I'm
not good enough, I'm not good

669
00:47:34,300 --> 00:47:37,600
enough but the start of that
sense is always I and me and

670
00:47:37,600 --> 00:47:40,400
realizing that that false
humility and that false way of

671
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:44,400
looking at life could be a
actual absolute killer to our

672
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:46,900
relationship.
And so God uses those first

673
00:47:46,900 --> 00:47:52,000
couple of years to really
transform me to be able to give

674
00:47:52,000 --> 00:47:55,100
100% of myself.
And not be, you know, relying on

675
00:47:55,600 --> 00:47:57,900
me or Shawn to make our
relationship work.

676
00:47:57,900 --> 00:48:03,700
But on for the kids, Yeah,
anything that's just again,

677
00:48:03,800 --> 00:48:06,400
gold.
Well, Diane will stick with you.

678
00:48:06,400 --> 00:48:10,100
This is a straight to you.
All right, it says, as a wife

679
00:48:10,100 --> 00:48:14,900
and leader for Christ, where do
you believe most ladies struggle

680
00:48:14,900 --> 00:48:18,200
and their relationships?
/ marriages, what lessons are

681
00:48:18,200 --> 00:48:20,600
Keys.
Would you shares to make share

682
00:48:20,600 --> 00:48:23,500
to make marriages healthy?
Yeah, I think the biggest

683
00:48:23,500 --> 00:48:25,900
struggle and maybe not just for
ladies, but what I see when I

684
00:48:25,908 --> 00:48:28,400
get to talk to women about, you
know, relationships is

685
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,900
communication.
I think so much of the struggles

686
00:48:31,900 --> 00:48:34,200
that I have in marriage boil
down to communication.

687
00:48:34,200 --> 00:48:37,400
And I've identified like two
main ways that I've seen this

688
00:48:37,400 --> 00:48:40,900
play out in one.
This is the one I'm guilty of is

689
00:48:40,900 --> 00:48:45,300
under communicating, not talking
shutting down having some, maybe

690
00:48:45,300 --> 00:48:48,300
some unspoken expectations that
I'm not willing to do or like

691
00:48:48,300 --> 00:48:49,700
the silent test.
You know.

692
00:48:49,700 --> 00:48:51,900
Like, let me see if he really
paid attention to what I said

693
00:48:51,900 --> 00:48:55,300
and not.
You know, any kind or I have met

694
00:48:55,300 --> 00:48:57,800
with some other women in groups,
over the years and had friends

695
00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:00,100
who it's the opposite where
there is overbearing

696
00:49:00,100 --> 00:49:02,500
communication.
It's over, you know, nagging

697
00:49:02,500 --> 00:49:05,000
complaining, I'm always
communicating about all the

698
00:49:05,000 --> 00:49:08,400
things you're not doing and what
I learned in there is a verse,

699
00:49:08,400 --> 00:49:10,600
I'll show you the second that
just slap me in the face,

700
00:49:10,600 --> 00:49:14,100
really, well one time, but that
neither way is healthy.

701
00:49:14,700 --> 00:49:16,000
And the versus this, I wrote
down.

702
00:49:16,000 --> 00:49:19,300
So I would but it's a fusions
429, which if you grew up in

703
00:49:19,300 --> 00:49:22,000
Churchill, so that's the first
not to cuss, that's not true.

704
00:49:22,600 --> 00:49:24,500
I mean that's in there, but
that's not the big part.

705
00:49:24,500 --> 00:49:28,400
So it says, don't use foul or
abusive language, but let

706
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:32,800
everything you say be good and
helpful so that your words will

707
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:35,500
be an encouragement to those who
hear them.

708
00:49:35,600 --> 00:49:38,500
And I think anybody in a
marriage relationship, cannot

709
00:49:38,500 --> 00:49:40,800
have to go back too far to.
Think about once the time, I

710
00:49:40,800 --> 00:49:45,000
said something that wasn't good
and helpful you mean today like

711
00:49:45,000 --> 00:49:48,400
this morning.
Like when and so man filtering,

712
00:49:48,400 --> 00:49:51,200
everything that I say and do
through that lens of good and

713
00:49:51,200 --> 00:49:54,900
helpful photos for Who is like
me, who doesn't want to speak up

714
00:49:54,900 --> 00:49:57,400
who won't make my needs?
Or, you know, things like that

715
00:49:57,400 --> 00:49:59,400
known.
Then I have to say the things

716
00:49:59,400 --> 00:50:02,300
that are good and helpful to
keep our relationship together.

717
00:50:02,400 --> 00:50:05,600
Maybe if I fall on the other
side of that line, like I don't

718
00:50:05,600 --> 00:50:09,500
have to say everything that I
think everything, I think is not

719
00:50:09,500 --> 00:50:12,900
good and helpful to Sean in a
marriage and so it's like

720
00:50:12,900 --> 00:50:16,200
finding that balance of like I
want to my words and my

721
00:50:16,200 --> 00:50:20,200
communications job is to be an
encouragement to the hearer is

722
00:50:20,200 --> 00:50:22,100
what that verse says.
So what can I say that is going

723
00:50:22,100 --> 00:50:24,600
to Courage him, that sometimes,
that's saying hard things.

724
00:50:24,700 --> 00:50:27,700
Hey, the way you said this or
did this, that didn't feel good

725
00:50:27,700 --> 00:50:30,000
like, and that's okay.
And that is healthy and should

726
00:50:30,000 --> 00:50:32,200
happen.
But to say it in that way, that

727
00:50:32,200 --> 00:50:34,800
it's helpful in an encouragement
to him, to be able to grow and

728
00:50:34,800 --> 00:50:36,400
change.
That's really it.

729
00:50:36,400 --> 00:50:38,700
So their keys on that.
Is that filter?

730
00:50:38,700 --> 00:50:40,500
Good and helpful.
You can tattoo that on your arm

731
00:50:40,500 --> 00:50:42,200
or whatever you want to do later
after the Gathering.

732
00:50:43,000 --> 00:50:46,000
Not letting the sun go down on
your anger and another verse I

733
00:50:46,008 --> 00:50:48,700
thought of and so we hear this
verse that I didn't write down

734
00:50:48,700 --> 00:50:50,500
the reference.
I think it's Proverbs 25:11.

735
00:50:50,500 --> 00:50:54,200
It says that like a word.
Fitly placed is like apples of

736
00:50:54,200 --> 00:50:56,000
gold.
I loved I looked it up in the

737
00:50:56,000 --> 00:51:00,700
NLT and it said timely advice is
like apples of gold.

738
00:51:00,700 --> 00:51:03,600
So like the car ride home after
Sunday morning isn't the time to

739
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:05,600
be like you know you kind of
messed up that whole part of

740
00:51:05,607 --> 00:51:08,600
that message.
That's not it for our marriage.

741
00:51:08,600 --> 00:51:11,900
The car ride home on Sundays.
Like babe, that was a killer

742
00:51:11,900 --> 00:51:14,000
message, you nailed it, it was
awesome.

743
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,400
People were like coming to Jesus
left and right.

744
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:19,100
Like that's that moment if
there's something that real girl

745
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:22,100
needs to be addressed, on
Monday, we can talk about that

746
00:51:22,100 --> 00:51:23,600
then.
My job is to be a good and

747
00:51:23,600 --> 00:51:27,600
helpful encouragement to him.
So those are my tips bits of

748
00:51:27,600 --> 00:51:31,000
keys to help well, as time is
wrapping down.

749
00:51:31,000 --> 00:51:33,500
I do want to give you the floor
with the same question from the

750
00:51:33,500 --> 00:51:37,200
guy's perspective.
So in the interest of time, Sean

751
00:51:37,200 --> 00:51:39,000
as a husband, and leader for
cries.

752
00:51:39,000 --> 00:51:40,600
Where do you believe most men
struggle?

753
00:51:40,600 --> 00:51:45,000
And what keys do you have?
Yeah, so I saw a figure.

754
00:51:45,000 --> 00:51:49,100
I mean, the opposite question of
Diane apples of gold in the

755
00:51:49,100 --> 00:51:52,800
frames of silver.
So yeah, I think for For men,

756
00:51:52,800 --> 00:51:56,900
it's out.
I don't want to say EQ, but

757
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:59,100
which stands for yeah, I'm
getting there too.

758
00:51:59,200 --> 00:52:01,900
Good, bye baby.
Good jobs, you, I love you the

759
00:52:01,900 --> 00:52:03,800
best, you the man teachers.
Tom be helpful.

760
00:52:04,800 --> 00:52:10,000
No, like just expressing your
emotions and like a helpful way

761
00:52:10,900 --> 00:52:13,200
and then recognizing we're
somebody else's at emotionally

762
00:52:13,200 --> 00:52:14,300
or just recognizing where
they're at.

763
00:52:14,300 --> 00:52:16,500
At all.
One of the great things you do

764
00:52:16,500 --> 00:52:18,700
as a leader As You observe,
right?

765
00:52:18,700 --> 00:52:22,200
And for a husband for a spouse,
you know, her for a parent you

766
00:52:22,400 --> 00:52:24,900
Of your kids, right?
You watch any good coaches

767
00:52:24,900 --> 00:52:27,900
watching their team?
And part of it is just how to

768
00:52:27,900 --> 00:52:29,800
express.
What's on your heart, or what?

769
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:33,900
God's saying to you, or like
your own failure in a helpful

770
00:52:33,900 --> 00:52:36,200
way.
Most guys are like that can of

771
00:52:36,200 --> 00:52:38,200
soda and they just hold
everything in and then just

772
00:52:38,200 --> 00:52:42,000
like, boom the explodes.
And it's very difficult for guys

773
00:52:42,000 --> 00:52:44,800
to express themselves.
And so, I think for me, I think

774
00:52:44,800 --> 00:52:48,300
the first thing is to have
something inside of you that is

775
00:52:48,308 --> 00:52:51,900
given by God, that's beyond what
your ability is right now.

776
00:52:52,300 --> 00:52:55,000
I guess we Supernatural.
And I don't want to say it's

777
00:52:55,000 --> 00:52:56,800
like the wound of the father,
right?

778
00:52:57,400 --> 00:53:00,600
It's just something you were
never shown or you didn't see or

779
00:53:00,600 --> 00:53:02,800
didn't happen to you.
Their seeds are planted, That

780
00:53:02,800 --> 00:53:05,100
Grew bad things.
The receives that we're never

781
00:53:05,100 --> 00:53:07,800
planted that aren't there and we
can sit there and be upset or

782
00:53:07,800 --> 00:53:10,400
blame or make excuses or we can
say, okay?

783
00:53:10,400 --> 00:53:14,200
And replace my understanding of
how I do Life by my heavenly

784
00:53:14,200 --> 00:53:17,400
father and not just by my
Earthly father and that that

785
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:19,800
shoots that's foundational like
you're going to give something

786
00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:22,200
to somebody.
You have to have it first and

787
00:53:22,400 --> 00:53:24,800
You're not hard work as a man on
the inside.

788
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:26,300
Say.
I'm loved it.

789
00:53:26,300 --> 00:53:29,400
So I can love.
That's big most guys.

790
00:53:29,400 --> 00:53:31,700
They will never say, they'll
feel they feel abandoned.

791
00:53:31,700 --> 00:53:34,400
They feel her.
Feel let down to do, major up.

792
00:53:34,400 --> 00:53:36,200
I'm not good enough.
They're fighting to prove

793
00:53:36,200 --> 00:53:37,900
themselves and all you do is
look up.

794
00:53:37,900 --> 00:53:40,200
So heavenly father and say,
okay, yes, Jesus, yes, God,

795
00:53:40,200 --> 00:53:43,300
you've done it all for me and
now I am free.

796
00:53:43,700 --> 00:53:47,000
I am, I'm confident.
I'm bold.

797
00:53:47,100 --> 00:53:49,900
I'm or God calls it.
Be, I can give that away to my

798
00:53:49,900 --> 00:53:51,900
spouse but if you don't have
that, you can't give it and it

799
00:53:51,900 --> 00:53:54,200
will become Um, destructive.
So I see that quite often,

800
00:53:54,200 --> 00:53:55,700
right?
I can forgive because Christ

801
00:53:55,700 --> 00:53:59,100
forgave me, I still Choose, You
may make mistakes because Christ

802
00:53:59,100 --> 00:54:01,100
chose me and that is
foundational.

803
00:54:01,100 --> 00:54:03,200
And that just kind of like
coming to end of yourself is

804
00:54:03,200 --> 00:54:06,300
like the beginning of coming to
God, right?

805
00:54:06,500 --> 00:54:09,500
In your relationship is going to
show all those cracks and you

806
00:54:09,500 --> 00:54:10,600
may have thought you had
together.

807
00:54:10,600 --> 00:54:13,200
You may not recognize that was a
problem, right?

808
00:54:13,200 --> 00:54:16,600
That, that wound is been there
and so that's one of it and I

809
00:54:16,607 --> 00:54:18,700
think another thing that guys
will start with husband's is

810
00:54:18,700 --> 00:54:20,200
being a spiritual leader in the
home.

811
00:54:20,900 --> 00:54:24,500
See a lot of mom.
And women really just bringing

812
00:54:24,500 --> 00:54:27,500
their families to church, you
know, lead the way spiritually,

813
00:54:27,500 --> 00:54:29,300
and I'm like God bless the women
right?

814
00:54:29,400 --> 00:54:32,700
Come on, right?
But as men like we're called to

815
00:54:32,700 --> 00:54:35,300
be that for our family were
called to be the spiritual

816
00:54:35,300 --> 00:54:37,500
leader so we got to get up.
And hey, come on guys.

817
00:54:37,500 --> 00:54:40,800
Let's follow Christ and be a
model of prayer, right?

818
00:54:41,200 --> 00:54:44,800
Don't expect anybody else to be
any better or healthier than you

819
00:54:44,800 --> 00:54:46,000
are.
As a man.

820
00:54:46,500 --> 00:54:49,400
And so you just say hey I'm on a
field full prayer before prayer

821
00:54:49,600 --> 00:54:52,000
I want to be family word of God.
I'm in the word of God.

822
00:54:52,300 --> 00:54:56,200
I want family to forgive, I
forgive my family do this, I do

823
00:54:56,200 --> 00:54:57,900
that.
And so you change your culture

824
00:54:58,100 --> 00:55:00,400
and you change your family's
culture and it's really fun to

825
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:04,200
watch as God gets ahold of men
and in changes their hearts how

826
00:55:04,200 --> 00:55:06,700
the whole family starts to
change because what guys doing

827
00:55:06,700 --> 00:55:09,800
them.
So, do you think you guys for

828
00:55:09,800 --> 00:55:12,900
your wisdom on those really cool
to hear both your perspectives?

829
00:55:12,900 --> 00:55:15,800
Well, this is the last question
and this is again back to the

830
00:55:15,800 --> 00:55:17,300
all skate.
This is for both of you, the

831
00:55:17,300 --> 00:55:20,600
very last one, you guys are
about 15 years into marriage,

832
00:55:20,600 --> 00:55:23,900
right?
So, I love all this is worded.

833
00:55:23,900 --> 00:55:27,300
It says, if you are to make it
another 50s, ha ha.

834
00:55:27,300 --> 00:55:30,700
Let's change that to when people
when you make it another, 15

835
00:55:30,700 --> 00:55:33,900
years Ambien, how do you plan to
keep your relationship fresh?

836
00:55:33,900 --> 00:55:34,900
I mean, where do you go from
here?

837
00:55:34,900 --> 00:55:37,200
We've kind of talked about how
you've done it in the past but

838
00:55:37,200 --> 00:55:39,000
like, where does this next
chapter go?

839
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:42,700
How do you keep a candle burning
and not just coexist float or

840
00:55:42,700 --> 00:55:47,000
grow apart?
I can say, the first thing would

841
00:55:47,000 --> 00:55:51,100
be to keep it real.
So, real intimacy, real

842
00:55:51,200 --> 00:55:53,800
relationships come.
I'm out of vulnerability and so

843
00:55:53,800 --> 00:55:56,700
being able to you know, bear
myself and my dreams and my

844
00:55:56,700 --> 00:56:01,000
desires and all those things to
Sean is going to help us to move

845
00:56:01,100 --> 00:56:04,100
forward as we continue to grow
in each other.

846
00:56:04,100 --> 00:56:07,000
The second one is to keep
laughing.

847
00:56:07,900 --> 00:56:10,400
I think are there was something
besides God our relationship to

848
00:56:10,400 --> 00:56:12,600
be founded on.
I'd probably be humor and there

849
00:56:12,600 --> 00:56:15,600
is a just a lot of moments where
you get to have, like a full-on

850
00:56:15,600 --> 00:56:18,400
belly laugh, and that is
something that really what it

851
00:56:18,400 --> 00:56:21,700
teaches you is not to take
yourself, too, seriously to have

852
00:56:21,700 --> 00:56:24,100
a short memory Three of your
failures to be able to laugh

853
00:56:24,100 --> 00:56:26,100
when things don't go the way you
thought they were going to.

854
00:56:26,100 --> 00:56:28,500
And just say, you know what,
well, that tomorrow is another

855
00:56:28,500 --> 00:56:30,300
day.
We get to move forward from

856
00:56:30,300 --> 00:56:32,800
that.
Yeah, thing that just didn't go

857
00:56:32,800 --> 00:56:35,700
the way it was, but that being,
you know, quick to be a solution

858
00:56:35,700 --> 00:56:38,400
quick to offer help laughing
through that time and then keep

859
00:56:38,400 --> 00:56:40,600
dreaming, I think it's something
that's really big.

860
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:42,900
If you're talking about the
freshness of your relationship,

861
00:56:42,900 --> 00:56:46,200
like I think in God's word, it
always says that God is.

862
00:56:46,400 --> 00:56:48,900
He's doing a new thing, he's
making a new song.

863
00:56:48,900 --> 00:56:51,300
He's and I think inside of our
relationships, we get to model

864
00:56:51,300 --> 00:56:53,800
God in that way.
Way and God will give us new

865
00:56:53,800 --> 00:56:56,200
things or that you know that we
hadn't thought of or maybe he's

866
00:56:56,200 --> 00:56:58,700
speaking something to him that
we can champion and celebrate

867
00:56:58,700 --> 00:57:00,700
together.
And so when you let each other

868
00:57:00,700 --> 00:57:04,100
enter into your dreams in that
way, and those god-given dreams

869
00:57:04,100 --> 00:57:06,600
and things, he's called you to
like something really cool

870
00:57:06,600 --> 00:57:10,800
happens that he God is in it.
Don't get a dream separately

871
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:12,400
from Sean.
Now, we're together, we're one

872
00:57:12,400 --> 00:57:14,800
flesh.
And so, letting opening that up

873
00:57:14,800 --> 00:57:17,200
to him and letting him being
able to open that up to me, is

874
00:57:17,200 --> 00:57:20,800
just so key to keeping him
fresh, keeping you keep

875
00:57:20,800 --> 00:57:25,300
laughing, keep laughing.
Yeah, Dad, I love to travel.

876
00:57:25,800 --> 00:57:29,000
I'm not much of a traveler but
she drags you along, you know, a

877
00:57:29,008 --> 00:57:31,100
couple months ago.
She's like, hey, when we get to

878
00:57:31,100 --> 00:57:34,500
Kenya I'm like, what when we
going to Kenny?

879
00:57:34,500 --> 00:57:37,900
Again, you know, just it's on
our hearts on my heart.

880
00:57:37,900 --> 00:57:40,400
You know?
I think I like to question their

881
00:57:40,400 --> 00:57:44,500
like if at some level because
you're not really guaranteed 15

882
00:57:44,500 --> 00:57:47,900
years, you know?
And by God's grace, like I see a

883
00:57:47,908 --> 00:57:51,000
lot of guys just get become
about themselves, they just make

884
00:57:51,000 --> 00:57:54,700
it about them.
So selfish, just think I'm over

885
00:57:54,700 --> 00:57:57,000
it and they walk away and
somebody's not willing to do

886
00:57:57,000 --> 00:57:58,200
this.
And I see a lot of ministry

887
00:57:58,200 --> 00:58:00,500
couples.
I think we saw a stat there.

888
00:58:00,500 --> 00:58:04,200
They said there's like 40
percent of marriages like her

889
00:58:04,200 --> 00:58:08,400
fault part in the ministry.
I mean, just, there's just so

890
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:11,200
many traps, you know, there's so
many quicksands for everybody.

891
00:58:11,400 --> 00:58:14,800
And so, I like the Riff and then
it had a, I always try to keep

892
00:58:14,800 --> 00:58:18,000
in perspective that my time is a
gift, right?

893
00:58:18,100 --> 00:58:22,000
And so, like, I might not be
here tomorrow, you know, I mean,

894
00:58:22,000 --> 00:58:25,200
so, Even if it ends like okay
death, do us part right it.

895
00:58:25,200 --> 00:58:28,300
So, I'm looking, like, kids, you
Undead, give it all today, you

896
00:58:28,300 --> 00:58:31,200
know, guess if I'm not there
because I'm not guaranteed of

897
00:58:31,200 --> 00:58:33,600
anything.
It's so I just kind of try to

898
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:36,300
keep that like number your days
perspective especially in your

899
00:58:36,308 --> 00:58:40,200
marriage like not going to bed
upset right now the sun go down

900
00:58:40,200 --> 00:58:43,700
on your wrath and not to if you
don't say something then you

901
00:58:43,700 --> 00:58:46,400
chose to forgive it.
The my opinion, if you're going

902
00:58:46,400 --> 00:58:49,100
to go to bed on, be better than
you have to create, you have to

903
00:58:49,100 --> 00:58:51,000
forgive and move on.
That's, that's a choice, you

904
00:58:51,000 --> 00:58:52,600
make.
And so just like, Starting to

905
00:58:52,607 --> 00:58:54,600
clean slate every day.
I think really helps.

906
00:58:55,100 --> 00:58:56,500
You know what's it matter to
you?

907
00:58:56,500 --> 00:58:58,900
Is it worth it?
I also think about, like, are

908
00:58:58,900 --> 00:59:01,000
you going to lose all this, you
know?

909
00:59:01,200 --> 00:59:03,800
So like if I'm gonna do
something dumb or start pursuing

910
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,900
a direction, or look at
something, or just not care.

911
00:59:07,600 --> 00:59:10,000
Did you, did you weigh that out
in your mind before you started

912
00:59:10,000 --> 00:59:11,900
that?
So I just start, moving away

913
00:59:11,900 --> 00:59:14,500
from things that are destructive
to my life.

914
00:59:14,700 --> 00:59:18,100
So I'm not going to find habits
or hobbies that take me away

915
00:59:18,100 --> 00:59:21,000
from her all the time.
So I don't have a guys night

916
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:23,000
like, I love you all, you know.
Just just on me.

917
00:59:23,500 --> 00:59:26,000
So I might I'm super valuables
on this bill and family night,

918
00:59:26,000 --> 00:59:28,200
you know.
So we do family move and I and

919
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:31,100
we do all the stuff and I just
can't spoil the kids to you know

920
00:59:31,100 --> 00:59:34,700
and but also think the day like
if you're going to make it the

921
00:59:34,700 --> 00:59:37,600
15 years and we're God's going
to call you to go the question

922
00:59:37,600 --> 00:59:40,100
it wasn't for me.
Like how do you keep it fresh?

923
00:59:40,400 --> 00:59:42,600
I think the question would be,
how do you keep it fruitful?

924
00:59:43,500 --> 00:59:47,700
You know like fresh kind of goes
away, you know, you get enough,

925
00:59:47,700 --> 00:59:50,800
you know, laps around the track
you know you don't have all the

926
00:59:50,800 --> 00:59:53,700
feelings all the time.
You know, all these things but

927
00:59:53,700 --> 00:59:56,000
it isn't fruitful, right?
And we like fruitful come.

928
00:59:56,000 --> 00:59:57,900
All.
Somebody be fruitful and

929
00:59:57,900 --> 01:00:00,700
multiply right.
You won't have both.

930
01:00:00,700 --> 01:00:02,100
Right?
Depends.

931
01:00:03,100 --> 01:00:06,400
But I think fruitful for like,
is a proof for kids.

932
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:09,700
It, are we together producing
the things of God?

933
01:00:10,200 --> 01:00:11,800
I'll are we together?
Make an impact?

934
01:00:11,800 --> 01:00:14,000
Our community.
We make an impact in our family

935
01:00:14,000 --> 01:00:16,700
are we are we together on
Mission and we're producing

936
01:00:16,700 --> 01:00:20,300
things that grow its a four
dozen you plant it and grows on

937
01:00:20,300 --> 01:00:23,200
its own.
So are we like Sending vessel.

938
01:00:23,500 --> 01:00:26,800
So the day like I'm less
concerned about like a fad or a

939
01:00:26,800 --> 01:00:29,600
feeling, as you know, those are
going to come and go and he

940
01:00:29,600 --> 01:00:32,000
loved all the feelings, right?
And you do things for that.

941
01:00:32,000 --> 01:00:35,000
And I talked about some stuff
you can spice it up, right?

942
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:38,500
But the daily, something that
sustains its fruit and they were

943
01:00:38,500 --> 01:00:40,800
major buyer fruit.
You know, we're measuring stuff

944
01:00:40,800 --> 01:00:44,100
that survives the fire being
burned and what the works of God

945
01:00:44,100 --> 01:00:46,200
were so the day.
Like that's that's we're

946
01:00:46,200 --> 01:00:48,500
fighting for, you know, to be
fruit berries for the cause of

947
01:00:48,500 --> 01:00:50,400
Christ.
And so I think just sitting on

948
01:00:50,400 --> 01:00:54,100
that is way.
Has way more longevity.

949
01:00:54,500 --> 01:00:57,100
They were God wants us to be
than just chasing the feeling.

950
01:00:57,100 --> 01:01:00,900
So.
Well, as we wrap up here, I just

951
01:01:00,900 --> 01:01:03,600
want to say to Sean and Diane
and I think you guys would Echo

952
01:01:03,600 --> 01:01:05,300
be in this.
Just thank you guys for your

953
01:01:05,300 --> 01:01:08,400
leadership and just leading this
church.

954
01:01:08,400 --> 01:01:11,700
Well, I know we appreciate you
guys being an open book.

955
01:01:11,700 --> 01:01:14,100
I can't imagine, you know like
just kind of, you know, the

956
01:01:14,100 --> 01:01:15,900
butterflies but I just get to
ask the questions.

957
01:01:15,900 --> 01:01:18,100
I just gives you the messenger,
you know, but you guys are so

958
01:01:18,100 --> 01:01:19,700
glad you didn't pick any crazy
questions.

959
01:01:19,700 --> 01:01:21,600
Drew.
I do not like they're also

960
01:01:21,600 --> 01:01:25,200
people It's either swipe a
couple of them were either fight

961
01:01:25,200 --> 01:01:27,700
against myself to do that Shawn,
but I do keep it, you know, a

962
01:01:27,700 --> 01:01:29,200
little mature.
Thanks for down yourself,

963
01:01:29,200 --> 01:01:33,400
through this one time.
No, but no seriously you guys,

964
01:01:33,400 --> 01:01:37,300
you guys leave this church.
Well, and I just love knowing

965
01:01:37,600 --> 01:01:41,500
that when or if things get hard
like, you know, my own

966
01:01:41,500 --> 01:01:44,400
relationship.
I've got you guys on speed dial.

967
01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:49,700
You guys model that you guys
model for us how to communicate

968
01:01:49,700 --> 01:01:52,000
with our spouses you guys model
for us.

969
01:01:52,100 --> 01:01:57,300
Just seeking him first, and
knowing that that's the anchor

970
01:01:57,700 --> 01:02:01,000
that in the foundation that any
relationship will be built upon.

971
01:02:01,000 --> 01:02:03,600
So I know, I appreciate it.
I know I'm echoing.

972
01:02:03,600 --> 01:02:05,500
What?
They're thinking right now as

973
01:02:05,500 --> 01:02:07,200
well.
And just again, just we

974
01:02:07,207 --> 01:02:09,100
appreciate everything.
You guys have done this morning.

975
01:02:09,100 --> 01:02:12,000
So can we give it up for Sean
and Diane for Jake and Jesus

976
01:02:12,000 --> 01:02:13,700
being real with us man.
Thank you guys.

977
01:02:15,900 --> 01:02:18,500
I tell you, man.
One of the Highlights today,

978
01:02:19,100 --> 01:02:21,800
Sean talked about early, you
know, during the dedication, you

979
01:02:21,800 --> 01:02:24,000
know, just really at the heart
of every answer.

980
01:02:24,000 --> 01:02:28,100
Whether it was said or not, is
all of this works because the

981
01:02:28,100 --> 01:02:32,100
Lord was in it, right?
And just this idea that as for

982
01:02:32,100 --> 01:02:36,700
me and my house, we will serve
the Lord and we got to see these

983
01:02:36,700 --> 01:02:38,900
families.
Make that decision today with

984
01:02:38,900 --> 01:02:41,800
their kids up here, just
declaring putting that I love

985
01:02:41,800 --> 01:02:43,100
this imagery.
So I'm going to I've been saying

986
01:02:43,100 --> 01:02:45,500
it all morning, I keep saying it
putting that stake in the

987
01:02:45,500 --> 01:02:46,100
ground.
Right.

988
01:02:46,100 --> 01:02:49,300
Even without putting at stake in
the ground for your family.

989
01:02:49,500 --> 01:02:52,200
And just saying, you know, we
might have been doing other

990
01:02:52,200 --> 01:02:56,900
things before today, but as of
this moment, lead my house.

991
01:02:57,300 --> 01:03:01,100
We're going to serve the Lord,
my marriage, our marriage.

992
01:03:01,300 --> 01:03:02,800
We're going to serve the Lord
together.

993
01:03:02,800 --> 01:03:07,600
We're going to be on Mission
together and I just, man, I know

994
01:03:07,600 --> 01:03:12,000
there's so many stories in this
room and there's so many seasons

995
01:03:12,500 --> 01:03:15,300
that people are going through.
And we've spent a lot of time.

996
01:03:15,700 --> 01:03:17,300
On marriages and all that good
stuff.

997
01:03:17,300 --> 01:03:20,400
But me and I'm telling you,
there's something for you,

998
01:03:21,400 --> 01:03:25,900
whatever season you're in, you
might be young and never married

999
01:03:25,900 --> 01:03:29,900
and that's way off in the future
to smartest thing, you'll do,

1000
01:03:29,900 --> 01:03:32,400
you'll never regret taking
notes.

1001
01:03:32,400 --> 01:03:36,100
Now, you'll never regret coming
up with a game plan.

1002
01:03:36,500 --> 01:03:41,800
Now you'll never regret looking
back that you decided to get

1003
01:03:41,800 --> 01:03:45,600
your relationship rock-solid
with the god that loves you.

1004
01:03:45,700 --> 01:03:50,300
Heaven and be confident in
yourself before you're ready to

1005
01:03:50,300 --> 01:03:54,400
pour out into someone else.
You'll never regret that and I

1006
01:03:54,400 --> 01:03:57,000
hope you hear that today.
And there's there's other people

1007
01:03:57,000 --> 01:04:03,000
to there's people that they're
walking through a season of

1008
01:04:03,000 --> 01:04:05,500
singleness and he didn't want to
do you know what I mean?

1009
01:04:05,500 --> 01:04:10,400
I'm sorry, Emma.
I'm saying I don't mean to

1010
01:04:11,100 --> 01:04:14,600
Bubble up here, but they're
walking through a season that

1011
01:04:14,600 --> 01:04:18,000
they never thought they'd be in,
it's not fair, right?

1012
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:21,800
It just, it feels that way.
And God, I hope that you're

1013
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:26,700
just, you're taking notes and
you're just, you know, taking a

1014
01:04:26,707 --> 01:04:30,700
season to heal and just getting
ready for what God has next kind

1015
01:04:30,700 --> 01:04:32,700
of say to you.
God's not done with that story,

1016
01:04:32,700 --> 01:04:35,800
yet, it's not done.
God's got something for you.

1017
01:04:35,800 --> 01:04:40,800
You're not broken, you're not.
What's in the past is in the

1018
01:04:40,800 --> 01:04:43,300
past.
Me and God has got something for

1019
01:04:43,300 --> 01:04:46,200
you today.
And I just want you to know that

1020
01:04:46,200 --> 01:04:49,500
just like we lifted up these
families.

1021
01:04:50,100 --> 01:04:53,300
We lift you up today.
We're behind, you were for you.

1022
01:04:54,200 --> 01:04:56,900
God's got something for you.
I don't, I can't tell you how

1023
01:04:56,900 --> 01:05:01,300
long, the season last sir or
anything like that, but you

1024
01:05:01,300 --> 01:05:06,400
don't have to be a perfect
picture as Godly marriage to be

1025
01:05:06,400 --> 01:05:08,900
loved by God.
I hope you leave here.

1026
01:05:08,900 --> 01:05:13,900
Knowing Man, I just I want to
just take a moment and I want

1027
01:05:14,000 --> 01:05:17,900
every I and every eye to close
every head bowed and we're just

1028
01:05:17,900 --> 01:05:22,000
going to go before God today and
just I just want to lift you

1029
01:05:22,008 --> 01:05:24,600
guys up everyone in this room.
I just want to say, father God,

1030
01:05:25,700 --> 01:05:29,000
thank you for this morning and
thank you for again just for

1031
01:05:29,000 --> 01:05:32,800
Shawna Diane just opening up and
God just how much you've bless

1032
01:05:32,800 --> 01:05:37,400
their marriage and that you've
just empowered them to be an

1033
01:05:37,400 --> 01:05:41,300
open book.
You you've put relationships,

1034
01:05:41,300 --> 01:05:45,000
you've put people's hearts, you
put people's Souls on their

1035
01:05:45,000 --> 01:05:46,500
hearts and he brought them
together.

1036
01:05:46,500 --> 01:05:51,100
God and it and all those years
ago that that decision to launch

1037
01:05:51,100 --> 01:05:56,100
a new church to take that step
of faith has led to this moment.

1038
01:05:56,900 --> 01:06:01,700
We're so many Souls, mine
included, Holly's included, we

1039
01:06:02,000 --> 01:06:06,700
just you led us here.
And God hear you're a fighting

1040
01:06:06,700 --> 01:06:09,200
Us in the fire.
You're growing Us in this

1041
01:06:09,200 --> 01:06:13,300
season, God and just just can't
wait to see what happens next.

1042
01:06:13,300 --> 01:06:18,100
Is we just continue to reach his
community, but we also know

1043
01:06:18,100 --> 01:06:22,200
that, as we're reaching out, we
have to reach and God, just

1044
01:06:22,200 --> 01:06:25,300
thank you for the challenge
today for the wisdom and just

1045
01:06:25,400 --> 01:06:27,700
help us not to just say.
Oh man, that was cute.

1046
01:06:27,700 --> 01:06:30,800
That was cool to hear their
story and all that stuff, help

1047
01:06:30,800 --> 01:06:35,500
us to find.
The nuggets of wisdom in there

1048
01:06:36,100 --> 01:06:37,900
and help us to do something
about it.

1049
01:06:37,900 --> 01:06:42,400
God, that's the hardest step.
It's so easy to nod and just be

1050
01:06:42,400 --> 01:06:44,600
like, yeah, man, that's a good
word, Sean yeah, man died.

1051
01:06:44,600 --> 01:06:49,700
And that was, that was so so
smart, and it's so hard to do

1052
01:06:49,700 --> 01:06:51,000
it.
Got so I pray, you'll give us

1053
01:06:51,000 --> 01:06:54,600
the courage today that you'll
give us the boldness to do that.

1054
01:06:54,600 --> 01:06:57,700
God, there's there's
relationships in this room,

1055
01:06:59,000 --> 01:07:04,400
there's relationships online.
That are rocky that things

1056
01:07:04,400 --> 01:07:06,900
haven't communication.
Has it been strong?

1057
01:07:08,100 --> 01:07:11,300
We talked about that
stubbornness that eats us up as

1058
01:07:11,300 --> 01:07:14,300
guys we don't show our emotions,
we don't communicate.

1059
01:07:15,800 --> 01:07:19,900
And we've been, there's people
have been paddling God, I pray,

1060
01:07:19,900 --> 01:07:24,100
you will soften Hearts today.
I pray that you will just be

1061
01:07:24,100 --> 01:07:27,200
able to let us look at our
spouse.

1062
01:07:27,800 --> 01:07:32,000
Look at our partner and open up
in a way that we haven't before

1063
01:07:33,300 --> 01:07:35,200
or that we have it in a really
long time.

1064
01:07:37,100 --> 01:07:42,500
God, I lift up anyone in this
room for any reason that's

1065
01:07:42,500 --> 01:07:44,600
walking through a season of
singleness.

1066
01:07:45,500 --> 01:07:50,200
Because of their youth because
of reasons beyond their control,

1067
01:07:52,300 --> 01:07:56,900
God poor it to them.
Let them feel your presence this

1068
01:07:56,900 --> 01:08:01,200
morning in this week not alone
there loved by you strengthen

1069
01:08:01,200 --> 01:08:06,000
them.
Refine them in this season we

1070
01:08:06,000 --> 01:08:09,600
just pray whatever their next
step in the journey is God, but

1071
01:08:09,600 --> 01:08:15,900
they'll be so in tune with you.
it doesn't matter because

1072
01:08:15,900 --> 01:08:19,000
they're who they are their
fullness, their Oneness is found

1073
01:08:23,600 --> 01:08:28,000
God, we just, we pray for broken
hearts this morning and we pray

1074
01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:31,800
for broken families and we just
we pray for miracles.

1075
01:08:32,500 --> 01:08:35,899
We pray for change.
Really at the end of it.

1076
01:08:35,899 --> 01:08:37,500
God, we pray that your will be
done.

1077
01:08:38,600 --> 01:08:43,000
And we pray that we'll have the
strength to just remember that

1078
01:08:43,000 --> 01:08:46,000
everything that's happened.
It's because you got you were

1079
01:08:46,000 --> 01:08:50,300
in.
So if you're here, keeping your

1080
01:08:50,300 --> 01:08:54,100
eyes closed, your head bowed.
If if you're ready to put that

1081
01:08:54,100 --> 01:08:57,600
stake in the ground today and
say I'm ready to have that

1082
01:08:57,600 --> 01:09:00,600
conversation, I'm ready to open
up the lines of communication

1083
01:09:00,800 --> 01:09:03,000
things have been tough but I'm
ready to get back on the right

1084
01:09:03,000 --> 01:09:05,100
track.
I'm ready to get myself right

1085
01:09:05,100 --> 01:09:06,800
with God as I prepare.
My heart for this.

1086
01:09:06,800 --> 01:09:10,100
Next relationship is next.
It is, I strengthen my marriage

1087
01:09:10,200 --> 01:09:14,300
as I commit to, to walking and
leading with my walking with and

1088
01:09:14,300 --> 01:09:17,500
leading my family in the season.
God, I just pray that everyone

1089
01:09:17,500 --> 01:09:19,399
in this room, who wants to do
that, but you'll just raise your

1090
01:09:19,399 --> 01:09:21,800
hand and just boldly declare,
we're not looking at you.

1091
01:09:22,500 --> 01:09:26,899
No one's going to see but God,
We're proud of you.

1092
01:09:26,899 --> 01:09:29,200
God, I just pray over these
families who are these people

1093
01:09:29,700 --> 01:09:30,899
and that you will just be with
that.

1094
01:09:30,899 --> 01:09:34,500
And the next thing I want to get
to you though is maybe before

1095
01:09:34,500 --> 01:09:37,300
you do any of this stuff, we've
been talking about.

1096
01:09:38,899 --> 01:09:41,399
Maybe you don't have that
relationship with Jesus yet.

1097
01:09:42,700 --> 01:09:46,300
Maybe you've heard the story,
you have some kind of concept of

1098
01:09:47,000 --> 01:09:50,700
who he is and and what he's
done, but you're not there yet.

1099
01:09:50,700 --> 01:09:54,800
Kind of say that like the words
of that song he is for you

1100
01:09:55,100 --> 01:09:57,100
today.
He loves you and he wants a

1101
01:09:57,100 --> 01:10:00,900
relationship with you.
He sent his son, Jesus to die on

1102
01:10:00,900 --> 01:10:04,300
the cross and to rise again, he
conquered death.

1103
01:10:04,800 --> 01:10:09,000
So we don't have to so we can be
with him forever and and if it's

1104
01:10:09,000 --> 01:10:12,100
time for you, before any of this
other stuff, just to put that

1105
01:10:12,100 --> 01:10:14,100
stake.
The ground and say, you know,

1106
01:10:14,100 --> 01:10:17,700
I'm not leaving this room the
way that I came in.

1107
01:10:17,700 --> 01:10:22,600
I'm not leaving this room apart
from you, any longer God, if

1108
01:10:22,600 --> 01:10:26,500
you're ready to do that, I just
want you to raise your hand and

1109
01:10:26,500 --> 01:10:29,400
just let him know that you're
ready to do that today.

1110
01:10:30,500 --> 01:10:32,800
Get every eyes closed.
Every heads bowed.

1111
01:10:35,900 --> 01:10:38,500
I want you to pray a prayer with
me, if that's you now online or

1112
01:10:38,500 --> 01:10:40,900
here the room, and it's not the
prayer that saves you.

1113
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It's just, it's just that next
Step 4, but I want you to pray

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01:10:44,300 --> 01:10:46,000
with me and just say, dear
Jesus.

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01:10:47,800 --> 01:10:51,100
I'm sorry.
Sorry, it took me so long to get

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01:10:51,100 --> 01:10:55,000
here.
Sorry for my sin, forgive me of

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01:10:55,000 --> 01:10:59,800
my sin, I Repent of everything
that I've done.

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01:10:59,800 --> 01:11:02,100
That's led up to now.
God and I leave that in the past

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01:11:02,100 --> 01:11:07,300
and I knowingly walk towards you
and into your Open Arms.

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I know you love me.
God.

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01:11:09,200 --> 01:11:13,500
I know you sent your son Jesus.
I know he died for me.

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01:11:13,500 --> 01:11:17,400
He rose again.
And I know that I live with him.

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I give my life to you.
I'm married.

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01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:25,000
I get my marriage to you if I
have kids, I give my kids to

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01:11:25,000 --> 01:11:28,000
you, my family just old me's
done.

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01:11:29,000 --> 01:11:33,100
It hasn't gotten me very far.
I'm ready to put it all in with

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01:11:33,100 --> 01:11:36,200
you, God and I'm ready to leave
here changed.

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01:11:38,700 --> 01:11:41,400
I love you, God and I just thank
you for your forgiveness in

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Jesus name.
Alright guys, well, let's give

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it a big for anybody who made
that decision today.

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01:11:49,300 --> 01:11:52,700
Let's welcome him into the fold.
Awesome.

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01:11:54,300 --> 01:11:57,500
Minute, the statue today in
today's the day, you chose God

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01:11:57,500 --> 01:11:59,900
first because he's pursuing, you
can we delay?

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01:11:59,900 --> 01:12:02,200
You know that we're all in for
you is the reason we show up

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01:12:02,200 --> 01:12:04,300
here every week because we're
looking for people that are

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01:12:04,300 --> 01:12:06,500
making decisions because we know
God's pursuing people.

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01:12:06,500 --> 01:12:08,500
So, if that's you today, I've
got a couple great next steps.

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01:12:08,900 --> 01:12:11,200
First one is let us know about
your decision by texting RL.

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01:12:11,200 --> 01:12:14,300
Next 29. 7000, what we'll do is
we'll have one of our team

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01:12:14,300 --> 01:12:15,900
members reach out to you over
the phone.

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01:12:16,100 --> 01:12:17,400
Hold jobs.
You connected here.

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01:12:17,400 --> 01:12:20,100
Help you in any way that we can
just get your resource we care

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01:12:20,100 --> 01:12:21,500
about you.
God cares about you.

1144
01:12:21,700 --> 01:12:23,600
Number two, is if you're with us
in person, on your way, out of

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01:12:23,608 --> 01:12:25,800
the worst, The center, there's a
red bag, grab one of those

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01:12:25,800 --> 01:12:27,600
inside.
There's a Bible, what a great

1147
01:12:27,600 --> 01:12:28,900
way.
What a great Next Step.

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01:12:28,900 --> 01:12:30,500
Just to get started off on the
right foot.

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01:12:30,500 --> 01:12:33,100
We want you to have that,
there's other great resource

1150
01:12:33,300 --> 01:12:35,500
resources in there, so grab
those on your way out.

1151
01:12:35,500 --> 01:12:37,000
Yeah, we were so excited for
you.

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01:12:37,400 --> 01:12:40,700
I love how Pastor is Sean and
Diane talked about choosing

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01:12:40,700 --> 01:12:43,500
today to serve the Lord, putting
God first.

1154
01:12:43,800 --> 01:12:46,200
Well, that's in your marriage,
your kids, your relationships

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01:12:46,400 --> 01:12:48,300
marriages, just anything and
everything.

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01:12:48,300 --> 01:12:50,600
So for you guys, I've got a
couple great next steps for you

1157
01:12:50,600 --> 01:12:52,000
as well.
Maybe guys, put something on

1158
01:12:52,000 --> 01:12:53,900
your heart today.
Maybe you've been looking for

1159
01:12:54,000 --> 01:12:57,000
And maybe realize the one and
you want to know a little more

1160
01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:58,900
about it.
So I want you to know there's a

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01:12:58,907 --> 01:13:00,600
special opportunity this
afternoon.

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01:13:00,600 --> 01:13:02,500
We got a special course called
crash course.

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01:13:02,900 --> 01:13:05,300
We'd love to have you come out,
you can get signed up two days

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01:13:05,300 --> 01:13:07,400
from two to four Thirty right
here at our Hope Center bill

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01:13:08,000 --> 01:13:11,400
will help you lead through the
path of knowing god finding

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01:13:11,400 --> 01:13:13,700
Freedom discovering purpose and
knowing that you can make a

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01:13:13,700 --> 01:13:16,100
difference.
What that looks like here maybe

1168
01:13:16,100 --> 01:13:18,800
a real life so come check us
out, we'd love to have you sign

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01:13:18,800 --> 01:13:20,300
up, you won't be alone.
It would be a great time.

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01:13:20,300 --> 01:13:23,000
Come hang out with this.
Number two is this, if you've

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01:13:23,000 --> 01:13:24,800
committed your life, Life to
Christ.

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01:13:24,800 --> 01:13:27,100
Since the last time we did
baptism, we were going to have a

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01:13:27,100 --> 01:13:29,000
very special Easter Sunday on
April.

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01:13:29,000 --> 01:13:31,000
The 9th.
We would love for you to be a

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01:13:31,000 --> 01:13:33,200
part of it.
Baptism is the next step.

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01:13:33,400 --> 01:13:36,600
If you give me your your life to
Christ, it is simply just

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01:13:36,600 --> 01:13:39,500
telling the world to that weird
Edison were alive to God and we

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01:13:39,500 --> 01:13:42,400
want everybody to know it.
In fact, it's really, it's one

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01:13:42,400 --> 01:13:45,700
of the last Commandments that
Jesus gave us to go out and into

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01:13:45,700 --> 01:13:48,900
the world and preach and teach
and to baptize people in the

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01:13:48,907 --> 01:13:50,800
name of the father Son and the
Holy Spirit.

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01:13:50,800 --> 01:13:52,800
So we would love to have you a
part of that.

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01:13:52,800 --> 01:13:56,200
You can sign up online.
For that very special Sunday.

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01:13:56,200 --> 01:13:58,900
If you've ever been a part of
our baptisms, you are missing

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01:13:58,900 --> 01:14:01,500
out.
It is, a party is exciting.

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01:14:01,700 --> 01:14:04,400
We will tell your story.
We'll just wrap our arms around

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01:14:04,400 --> 01:14:06,100
you.
We would love to have you a part

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01:14:06,100 --> 01:14:08,500
of that.
Last is this last step is this

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01:14:08,800 --> 01:14:10,700
choosing guide means choosing
God daily.

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01:14:11,000 --> 01:14:12,300
It's not something we do once a
week.

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01:14:12,300 --> 01:14:15,500
Once a month, we to a daily.
The one of the great ways that

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01:14:15,500 --> 01:14:18,600
we do that here is being a in
downloading, something called

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01:14:18,600 --> 01:14:20,500
the YouVersion Bible app.
If you haven't done that, do it

1194
01:14:20,500 --> 01:14:23,500
today, do it right now.
Pull out your phone because on

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01:14:23,500 --> 01:14:25,000
the universe.
The Bible like you have access

1196
01:14:25,000 --> 01:14:26,800
to so many different
translations, you have part of

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01:14:26,800 --> 01:14:30,300
God's word, but on top of that,
you can go back and you can

1198
01:14:30,300 --> 01:14:33,600
follow along either during a
gathering to the sermon that

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01:14:33,600 --> 01:14:36,600
Sean's bringing and you can take
notes and at the end of the

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01:14:36,600 --> 01:14:38,700
notes, there's also a section
called talk it over.

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01:14:38,900 --> 01:14:41,800
It's a section that we use in
staff meetings at life groups.

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01:14:41,900 --> 01:14:44,400
It's a great way to reconnect
with what God's LED.

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01:14:44,900 --> 01:14:47,400
Our trust has to go through that
followings or that previous

1204
01:14:47,400 --> 01:14:49,400
Sunday.
So download that today it's a

1205
01:14:49,407 --> 01:14:52,700
great way just to choose daily.
What God's got for you to be a

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01:14:52,700 --> 01:14:55,000
part of that?
Let you guys know that your

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01:14:55,000 --> 01:14:57,800
generosity makes a difference
week in and week out and you

1208
01:14:57,800 --> 01:15:00,600
guys don't know all the stories
of everybody that comes in or if

1209
01:15:00,600 --> 01:15:03,500
people are on stage, but I
cannot tell your generosity is

1210
01:15:03,500 --> 01:15:07,400
what God is using to help break
additions to help heal

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01:15:07,400 --> 01:15:09,500
marriages, you guys play a part
of that.

1212
01:15:09,500 --> 01:15:12,500
So thank you so much for being
generous and being faithful to

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01:15:12,500 --> 01:15:15,000
God in that way.
Can I let you know if you're new

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01:15:15,000 --> 01:15:16,800
to real life?
This isn't isn't for you.

1215
01:15:16,800 --> 01:15:19,400
We don't want anything from you.
We want something for you, but

1216
01:15:19,400 --> 01:15:21,500
if you call a real iPhone,
there's still three ways that

1217
01:15:21,500 --> 01:15:23,000
you can connect to generosity
here.

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01:15:23,400 --> 01:15:25,600
The first is by going online at
Real Life Church.

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01:15:25,600 --> 01:15:27,800
Kc.com number two, you can
texting him out, eight, four

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01:15:27,800 --> 01:15:30,000
three, two, one, or if you want
to use cash or cheque, there's a

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01:15:30,000 --> 01:15:32,800
giving box at the back of the
Worship Center or you can drop

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01:15:32,800 --> 01:15:35,600
in the bucket says they pass.
Lastly, is these buckets pass.

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01:15:35,900 --> 01:15:38,700
As always, if you or your
family, find yourself in need of

1224
01:15:38,700 --> 01:15:41,200
immediate food clothing or
shelter, please reach in and

1225
01:15:41,200 --> 01:15:43,900
grab any loose cash.
If you see in just tell a family

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01:15:44,200 --> 01:15:46,900
in this time of need, hey, we've
got an exciting opportunity

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01:15:46,900 --> 01:15:49,100
coming up this summer.
It's a missions trip.

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01:15:49,100 --> 01:15:50,800
Take the second.
Check out this video.

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01:15:51,900 --> 01:16:03,300
God can do amazing things
through your life this summer,

1230
01:16:03,300 --> 01:16:06,300
traveling to Colombia with real
life and so maybe you're

1231
01:16:06,300 --> 01:16:07,800
thinking, what would we do
there?

1232
01:16:07,800 --> 01:16:09,800
Who are we going to reach who?
What kind of people are we going

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01:16:09,800 --> 01:16:12,200
to see?
So I want you to take a minute

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01:16:12,200 --> 01:16:16,300
or so and check out an awesome
video that gives you just a

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01:16:16,300 --> 01:16:21,000
little glimpse of what God might
do in your life this summer when

1236
01:16:21,000 --> 01:16:23,900
you go to bed.
Guitar Colombia with us.

1237
01:16:23,900 --> 01:17:24,600
Check it out.
That's a wrap.

1238
01:18:08,400 --> 01:18:11,300
What an incredible time we had.
And I know God is going to do

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01:18:11,300 --> 01:18:14,500
exceedingly more this year as we
travel to Colombia.

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01:18:14,500 --> 01:18:19,100
So, there is one more chance
next Sunday, immediately

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01:18:19,100 --> 01:18:22,000
following the second gathering
for you to come to an

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01:18:22,000 --> 01:18:25,400
information, meeting to learn
more about our trip to Bogota.

1243
01:18:25,400 --> 01:18:28,100
So I want to see you there next
Sunday, right?

1244
01:18:28,100 --> 01:18:30,500
After the second Gathering or
come find me if you want.

1245
01:18:30,500 --> 01:18:33,700
Some more information about our
trip to Colombia God's going to

1246
01:18:33,700 --> 01:18:37,200
do amazing things through you
this summer and I can't wait to

1247
01:18:37,200 --> 01:18:46,800
see you again.
He's never had the opportunity

1248
01:18:46,800 --> 01:18:48,800
to see how God moves in another
part of the world.

1249
01:18:48,800 --> 01:18:50,600
Can I tell you that this mission
trip is for you.

1250
01:18:50,600 --> 01:18:53,700
So, if you have even this much
interest level, because you just

1251
01:18:53,700 --> 01:18:55,900
want to know something about it,
get connected with Diane.

1252
01:18:55,900 --> 01:18:58,500
Check out the meeting this week.
You won't be disappointed.

1253
01:18:58,500 --> 01:19:00,500
We would love to have you part
of that.

1254
01:19:00,700 --> 01:19:04,100
Hey, if you guys need prayer for
no reason, we would love to have

1255
01:19:04,100 --> 01:19:07,400
you up here.
Also be ready as Dianne brings a

1256
01:19:07,400 --> 01:19:09,200
message.
Of encouragement next week, as

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01:19:09,200 --> 01:19:12,200
we end our relationship Series.
So don't miss out that next

1258
01:19:12,200 --> 01:19:13,500
week.
And as you guys are headed out,

1259
01:19:13,500 --> 01:19:16,500
always remember that, whoever
finds Jesus covers real life and

1260
01:19:16,500 --> 01:19:17,700
purpose.
So you guys next week,